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hi kitty

im new to beat

and i think i have anorexia but im not sure

i know i dont eat enough and when i do it not always healthy or enough

i tried once talking to my mum about this but i cant tell her i dont eat lunch otherwise she mite get realli angry at me

i have always had to eat breakfats but i dont eat much for breakfast either

my family just think im fussy with food and dont understand and always going on at me which doesnt help

and im new at my school and all my freinds dont eat in the canteen some bring packlunches or eat later when there at home-so that doesnt help either

so i was wondering i you had any advice for me about telling my parents and whether and should go seek help or not

thnks for reading this lauren

hi guys,

kitty - i'm sorry you're having such a tough time, i know the feeling of food controlling everything, it's horrible isn't it.. maybe your parents and friends are more open than you think, they just don't know what to say. from their point of view, anything they say could upset you or be wrong in some way and it's really scary for them to think they might be hurting you. maybe if you open up first and say you just need someone to listen rather than to try and give you advice then they'd be more comfortable. you could maybe use your feelings of wanting to be able to eat/be like your friends as motivation to get better, you're worth a million times more than this illness and you deserve to get rid of it :) hope you're doing ok, take care xox

lauren - i think it's a really good idea to tell someone, the best person to tell i think is your gp, they should be really supportive as they've probably dealt with eating disorders before and they can get you the help you need. i don't think your mum would get angry with you, you're her daughter and it probably kills her to see you going through this so if there's something she could do to help you then it would make her feel better :) if your family are always going on at you i think the best thing to do is sit down with your parents or maybe just your mum and explain to her that you're unhappy and that it makes you feel bad when they say whatever they say. i really would say talk to someone, i did and it was the best thing i could have done in my situation, my doctor has been fantastic and they won't pressure you to do anything unless you're severely underweight or really ill for any other reason. good luck with telling someone! take care xox 

hey guys!

I think that perhaps, if you cant tell people openly, tell them by letter. It'll make it easier and remove most of the embarrassment/anxiety.

I think we all know that ana/ bella isnt nice. And the quicker we nip it in the bud the better, it can become a horrible downward spiral if we dont. Stay strong girls, and fight this thing till it stops ruling your thoughts. Remeber your the stronger of the 2. It will give you a sense of accomplishment too. Allow this to be your main thought rather than letting ana speak.

Good luck girls, and we're always here to talk!

xxx

thanks guys :):):)

its nice to have people here !

hey xbutterflyx  i really think you should talk to your mum about it, it's a terrifing idea i know and she may not understand at first but just sit her down and calmly exaplin the situation :)

i find that if you start eating things that don't fill you up as much and you wont feel bad about eating ,like fruit and veg, little and often helps.  xbutterflyx just make sure you eat little and often and you will eventually be able to build things up :)  for breakfast have a fat free yogurt and a banana? and for lunch maybe some fruit and crackers? and for dinner something light...maybe a jacket potato. you will be able to build it up i promise just little steps :)

Kitty