hmmm...ok then...Basically my mum's my bestest freinds ever, I couldn't ask for some one who I would be closer to in this life; without her I'd be totally lost and proberbly dead by now.
But I constantly compare what I eat and how long I stand or sit for on how much my mum does, it's a horrible obbession, my mum don't exactly eat like a healthy diet either (i.e. Breakfast, luch ect..) She'll have a dinner if she don't come home to late from work but when I think about what she eats and then compare it to what I do I feel so horrible and fat =(
On the other hand I want to make my mum happy and smile so I eat to make her do just that but atm things arn't good at home anyway and I'm really struggling, I feel so fat and nasty but I'm trying to eat to make my mum happy; even though I've been trying real hard my mum's still really sad which makes me feel like there's no point in eating anymore because I feel it's my fault for her unhappiness and other home problems, I'm so stuck and I really need help... any one out there????
From Laura xxx
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written by:shabba
posted: 26.06.2008 message:
Hi chick I can really relate to how you feel. I just want to let you know that you are not alone.
How would you feel about talking to her about this? Pehaps you could sit her down and let her know that you're struggling. It's great to know you are so close. You could say exactly what you wrote here or print it out and give it to her to read?
You have to think of yourself as well sweetie. It's important to eat to make yourself healthy (which in turn makes you feel happier, whch then makes your mum happy too). She'll be so pleased that you have spoken to her about your anxieties. Trust me, you'll both feel a lot better once you express your concerns.
Take care x
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written by:vintage.butterfly
posted: 26.06.2008 message:
goodness me i very much know how you feel i consttantly compare myself to my mum and my sister my sister who is so naturally skinny yet eats so much, and my mum who i think is borderline ed in all honesty she obsesses over fat content and calories and how much she exercises yet is probally just healthy underweight (if that makes sense) yet i think the key is not to keep comparing yourself to everyone else and believe in yourself, i think i learnt its your own life and you want to be happy and enjoy it so therefore what others do is not important
my pych said something very good like last week, he was like if looking a blue colour in the face was fashionable would you try and stop breathing or suffocate yourself
and it made me realise wow that is so true and the eating thing follows the same rule i guess
sorry if i come across really forward
take care
kisses
xx
Reply post 3: (No Subject)
written by:ur beautiful
posted: 13.07.2008 message:
Hey hunni, I understand that your worried about talking to your family, especially to your mum. But if you are struggling you have to tell her. It will bring you closer together and it will get everything off your chest.
I found it really hard to tell my mum because i had a strong relationship with her and i didnt want it to end. But when i told her she was so supportive and we still stay up late together talking about any worries and our days. Then everything is out in the open and i wont get stressed out about it. i found it really helpful.
Trust me, you will be ok and im always here to listen. x Lizzie x
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