posted: 06.08.2008
message: Hi,
Im Roxy and i suffer from bulimia. It is so kind of you to be concerned about your friend and that you have taken the time to come on here to get some advice. I wish i had a friend like you!
I think the main thing to do is to make sure that you are there for her. Let her know that you want to help and support her. I would find it very comforting to know that if you had any troubles then i have someone to go to. Even if you are there to just listen and comfort her then that might be enough.
When you are with her dont bring it up all the time and try and act normal around her. I would only talk about her anorexia if she brings it into the conversation or if you have a particular question or you are worried about her.
You could also suggest that you can go to the doctors with her to support her, because trust me it is very very scary! Maybe you could direct her to this site as well because it has helped me alot and im sure that she would find it beneficial too.
You need to try and make sure you don't get yourself down with it though! It is so admirable to want to support your friend but it will be hard on you because you are going to have to keep all her feelings and all your feelings about the situation to yourself. Recovering from an ED will take a long time, so try not to push her. No matter how hard you try to help her, she needs to want to change herself otherwise you are not going to get anywhere.
I might recommend that you call the Beat helpline because they will be able to offer you more advice or if you have any other questions i am here too!
Good luck with everything,
Love Roxy xxxxxx
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