"YOUR NOT FAT!!"

you took to words out of my mouth about the friend who tells you you're not fat. its like they think if they say it ur gonna turn around and go thanks i feel much better now u said that.

mind u they are only saying it cos they dont no what else to say, and mean well. its a fine line my dear between wanting to say shut up and just listening to them. i think eds totally make u sensitive to everything so u take everything much more personally, well thats how i feel anyway! soz for the quick reply but just rele wanted to say i totally no what u mean

rachel xxxx

I know what you mean hun. People compliment me all the time and my boss even told me I looked thinner one day after I have majorly binged. I just hate it so much. It's funny-I don't think oooh people are taking notice and I like the compliments so I will carry on restricting cos people will like me. I actually just want to scream at them because I'm not thinner. The last time I went to the doctors I had gained-so how can I be thinner!?

Sometimes I wanna ask them if they are blind but I can't be rude because thats not in my nature. Mind you, I'm thinking it too.

Just wanted to say I know how you feel hun and you're not alone in those feelings Take Care
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Hello, I also agree completely and when a teacher or someone says 'ahh yes I know a girl who went through exactly the same... ' and although its encouraging to know theres other people out there going through similar things, I still believe nobody ever knows exactly how you feel or the start of what the ed is about. And by her presuming things, it makes it worse.

Arghh. this is my pet hate. especially when all my friends are so skinny. and when everyone asks me if i'm ok its just like i dont know but id be better if you stopped asking me :@ .

i just wish people would leave me to it, if i wanted help or there opinions i would ask for it.

yep, i know what you mean.. before i went into the unit frist time, my friends all sat me down (in the canteen ironically!) and told me i wasn't fat and every one of them offered to buy me food! it was like i'd just forgotten to bring lunch money or something! but at the same time like it would fix everything because they thought i wasn't fat. hmm.

that's also another thing i hate.. the entire world and his wife know about what's been going on for me; people in the village who i've never met asking after me, and i'm just like, "tell them all it's fine!" that really does annoy me!

sorry.. i've had a bit of a rant here too! but at least now you know you're not thew only one it gets to!

love rose..xx

that is exactly how i feel and they think they are helping! i just feel like saying look if you force me to eat what i dont want to eat im just going to purge so your making it worse!!!!!

on the alcohol thing try not try drink too much and tell everyone before hand that your are a real lightweight so they should look out for you just in case have  fun and the gig and dont worry

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Omg I Absoloutely H8 Tht! A While Ago I Broke Dwn In My Tuta Period Nd Jst Started Cryin...My Tuta Askd Me Wt Was Rong Nd I Tld Her Evrythin...Nd Wt Was Her Reply...But Khloe...You're Not Fat If Anything You're To Thin...I Was Like Thinking Omg You Don't Understand You're Not In Here With Me Evrytym You Say Tht It Makes Me Trust You Less Because I Know You're Lying!...Nd Nw I've Totli Closed Up Frm Her Ent Spoken To Her In Ages I Wnt To But I'm Scared She'll Think Ima Burden Nd A Ryt Pain In Tha Butt...Anybody Gt Any Ideas On Approachin Her Agen W/out Bein Plain Annoyin? LovezYhoo xxxxxx Khloe xxxxxx

i completely hate it when my friends say im not fat.. there always like 'you have an amazing figure dont be stupid'.. what really distresses me is that they often say they want to look like me.. they dont have ne idea about my ed as ive had it for as long as i can remember.. i could never tell them coz they would think im attention seeking and just tell me im being stupid again.. im not being stupid.. i hate looking the way i do.. sometimes i just want to cut my skin off my body it gets that bad.. i dont like it that hey tell me im stupid because that makes me feel worse and angry at them.. i know if they knew they wouldnt know what to say but calling me stupid and sayinng they want to look like me doesnt help at all.. im finding it so difficult keeping everything to myself and hiding it but i cant tell ne one.. because then they might notice me..

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I thought i was the only one, everything described here is exactly what I am going thru. I am not even a teenager yet so none of my friends care what they eat or weigh. When i go into lunch with no food on my plate all my friends start to say stuff like that. They're my friends, i want them to help, i don't want them ranting at me and trying to stop me covering it up. i have only just got my ED and this is my first time on the site and i feel like i am drowning in ppl trying to help me (my friends, my teacher etc.) who are making it worse. Does anyone else know what i mean?

hey ppl

Yup i know exactly what u all mean, nd wen they dnt say things they jst give u this look and one day every1 sat with things on ther plate, they looked at me and sed "what are u having?" everyone stared and i felt like jst screaming at them. Hell ellie9001 i know what ur on about and its like, sometimes u jst wnt to forget nd then sum1 reminds u. Then usally afta i'll go to the gym or purge bcoz i have eaten or i am stressed with ppl swamping me with info.

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Hey Jane,

Yeah, its the same with me if they convince me to eat which isn't often, or if I can see a teacher watching me (except I have a gym at my house, so i just w8 till i get home and then go to the gym). But i feel so stupid and embarassed when they r saying 'You've got 2 eat, ur just being dumb, we all eat what we want' and I'm just like, 'Yeah? Good 4 u.' but they can't make me eat, sometimes I wish they would help me cover it up and loose weight, its their fault my teacher found out anyway, they told her, which has made it very hard 4 me 2 open up 2 them, because a) they betrayed me by telling her (although my teacher is really nice and kind about it all) and b) they might do it again. I know what u mean about the info, i swear I know every figure, evry symptom, evry cause of anorexia that there is.

Ur not alone

Elliexx 

I get so annoyed about this too.

When i get changed for PE at least once a week somebody goes oh your so skinny or I can hear them talking about how skinny i look. People should just keep their opinions to themselves if they haven't got anything constructive to say. It also annoys me if the person is even skinny themselves- I have skinnier friends who are getting changed next to me- hello... what about them? why dont they get the degrading comments that sometimes put me out for a day or two?

I apologise for my rant as well... I just get emotional at the subject.

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totally know what you mean hunny

I know exactly what you mean! I moved school when people found out, so now it's not so bad but I am scared that people will find out again and be weird about it. Why do people think it's so easy? They think it's a choice and that we can just eat whenever we want. It does my head in!!! Han xxxxxxxxxx

i no what ur talking about!!! I am so shy that i actually wud prefer a coffin than 3 ormore people all looking at me. But with this ed suddenly im public property and people say i look disgustingly thin n i shpuld eat more. Well thanks to u. At least they can nvr call me wirse things than i call myself! seriously tho when people comment on what i look like i want to sratch the skin of my face. The other day my tactless aunt says ooh r u not eating anymore? And a man in a cafe asked if I was a model. I had to go into the loos and cry with shame cos I don't know why a stranger would mock me and make fun of my obvious disgusting foul vile apppeaeence. I don't understand. xxxxxx

I no how u feel! A few weeks ago i was in a food tech lesson n dey were tlkin bout diets n stuff n course my teacher had 2 start talking boout eating disorders n den a girl in my class leaned ova 2 her friend n whispered reli loudly 'Why is Gabby (me) so thin?' i was like grrreeaatt n so i sed 2 her wot r u tlkin bout? n she sed ur SSOOO thin! everybody turned round n stared at me. I felt like saying wot am i now a freak show??! N dats not d 1st time its happened! Y r ppl so senseless? even b4 my ED i wouldnt say sumfin like dat 2 sum1