I'm new to all this.. help please??

Hey sweetie

I'm Sophie...I'm recovering from bulimia.

I can understand why you are scared of going to the doctors. But they will help you...as long as you tell them everything. Then they will be able to refer you to a clinic.

From what you're saying, it sounds like you do have the symptoms of an ed...but you dont know until you see the doctor hunni.

Take care

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Hun,

I am so sorry to hear you are not feeling too good at the moment.I promice you that when you go to the doctors they wont say that it is just your hormones.Making your self sick and starving yourself really isn't anything to do with hormones it is a sure sighn of an eating disorder and I am sure all the girls and lads on here will agree with me.Please hun you need to see your GP before your eating disorder gets worse to the point where you cant control it and do irraparable damage to your body. Which I know from experence does'nt sound like much now but when you recover you will wish that you had because eating disorders can really damage you. I have anorexia and I caused damage to my kidneys and my periods became very irragular and almost stopped which could have led to me not being able to have children which at the time I was'nt bothered about but I am so thankful that I sought help and have'nt done any irrapaprable damage to my body thankfully!!!!

Why dont you take your boyfriend to the doctors with you and if u feel like you dont want to do the talking perhaphs your boyfriend could???????? Hun it will be worth it in the end!!

Sorry for rambling and I hoped I have helped you!

Let me know how you are,

Jennyxxxxxxxxxx

hey, wow thankyou both for your help and advice. i went to my GP yesterday, and ur right, it made me feel so much better. he is trying to refer me to a place where i wont need an adult with me, but he thinks tht it is gunna be hard and tht im gunna need to tell my parents. does anyone have any advice on doing this?? i dont want them to think im attention seeking xxxxxxx

Hi,

Well done for going to the doctors, that must have been very hard for you and it is such a big step for you to take.

How old are you hun, cause i don't think if ur over 16 they can force you to tell your parents if you don't want to. Then may encourage you but because of confidentiality and everything they cannot make you tell them.

Ummm, telling parents is a hard one, but i am sure they wont think you are attention seeking. My parents found out so i just had to come clean to them about everything. I know though that the thought of telling them wasn't actually as bad as doing it and it was such a relief that i didn't have to keep it a secret anymore. Your parents will learn how to deal with it, they will probably be very shocked at first and find it hard to come to terms with but they will try their best to understand and help you.

Good luck with it all, let me no how you get on

Love Roxy xxxxxxxx

hey roxy, thankyou for your advice. i managed to tell my parents after i my appointment this morning. my GP said he had given my number to the people at the clinic and they wud call me for an appointment. is tht usually a long time? also my parents werent rele tht understanding about it. i mean they really arent that keen on me going to the clinic. my mum suggested me and her did a diet thing together, but i mean tht would be ueful for me. but i dont think its a gd time to be doing that seeing as i have just been diagnosed with an eating disorder. maybe im being stupid... but does tht sound like she understands? i mean i cant just stop what i am doing for a diet! im not chosing to be this way!  help?! xxxx

I hope you dont mind me replying to your letter to roxy about your mum not understanding.

A lot of parents when their child is diagnosed with an eating disorder automaticly blame themselves thinking its their fault and all they want to do is make it better.

I dont know if your mum thinks that you are just dieting or whether she is just trying to block out of her mind that her her daughter has got an eating disorder it can be very hard for parents to accept.Maybe you could ask your doctor for some information on eating disorders to give to your mum! I am sure that within time she will understand but its very difficult for both of you I know!

It can be really frustrating when your trying to get someone to understand how ur feeling when they dont but remember there is all of us on BEAT that totally understand you hun>

And if u ever need me I am always here and everyone on here is great!!!

Let me know how u are,

Jennyxxxxxx

thankyou jenny!! it really helps to know that i have so many other people here that know how im feeling and what im going through. my mum checks up on me alot now to make sure im not being sick or anything...but i think she is beginning to realise that just because we have talked about it, it doesnt mean i can stop just like that. i am still waiting on my appointment with the therapist, but hopefully stuff might have settled down before i go on an adventure holiday in france with school:( so scared now. it only a month away! but my boyfriend will look after me:) sorry for my ramble!! xxxxxxx

Hey its no problem thats what I am here for!

What scares you the most about your adventure holiday?

Yeah I am sure you boyfriend will take care of you!

Love Jennyxxx

Hey,

WELL DONE for telling your parents, that must have been so hard, but are you pleased you don't have to keep it a secret anymore?

It can be quite a long time, it may be a couple of weeks or so. My experience is that referrals take ages, just because it is quite a long process. Plus you need to get to the top of the waiting list but you never know. I think it depends on the clinic you have referred to and everything. Have you heard anything yet?  But no matter how long it takes, at least you know that you are getting help, and that the help will come eventually. Getting help is such a positive step.

Hmm, parents understanding is very hard. My parents don't understand either, but they try just as your parents are doing. Your mum was only trying to help about the whole diet thing. Maybe you should sit down with her and explain that that probably wont help. Also you could say 'lets wait until i see the therapist and then we can see'. The therapist will be able to help you with coping with your parents. Try not to push them away though, they are only trying to help...they care about you!

My mum did exactly the same with me and always checked up on me, though things have cooled down a bit now. I know she was only trying to help but it did get really annoying!

How are things for you atm?

Love Roxy xxxxxxx

U have been reli brave hun! Telling ur parents must have been so hard! It does take a while 4 dem 2 get used 2 it but it usually happens 4 me it was my mum who got me 2 go 2 d GP but i found it SO hard telling my friends n dey werent excepting n still rnt so i now how u feel! Referal was reli quick 4 me so i cant help with dat. Ive been reli scared bout skl trips but if u get referred b4 u go n dey give u a meal plan u cn tlk 2 ur teachers or head of yr bout it n dey usually help. It sumtimes helps 2 plan wot ur gonna eat b4 hand n try 2 stick 2 it which is reli hard but stops u worrying wen leading up 2 it. I dont think ive been dat usefull lol but if theres n e thing i cn help u with let me no hun xxx

hey sorry i havent been on for a while. had a really rough few days iv been passing out its scary. anyway in answer to ur question jenny, im scared that im not going to have the energy to do all the activities cus i find it rele hard to do normal things these days. its gunna be really difficult i no it.:( xxxxxxx

O hun, im sorry you have had a rough few days.

I too went through a stage of passing out. It is very scary and i really would urge you to see a doctor about this if you havn't done already. They can do tests to make sure that your body is physically ok, and will be able to get to the root of the problem. It may be obvious (the ED) but it could be something else that is causing you to pass out. I had many blood tests but everything came back fine. They put mine down to the ED, but you never know so its best to get checked out.

Hope things start to get better for you soon, take care,

Love Roxy xxxxxxxxx