Scared for girlfriend

hey,

sorry to hear about your girlfriend sweetheart.

it's good to hear that she thought she could tell you about it though, as it won't have been easy for her.

I know it must be hard for you to see someone you love going through something so difficult but she will really appreciate you being there for her, even if she doesn't always show it.

one of the most important things I would say to remember is that the eating disorder isn't the only part of her and so she may not always want it to be the focus of your discussions. underneath the illness she is still the same person that she was before, and when she manages to beat this she will just be a stronger version of that person.

let me know how things are going,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

hey tomriddle.

my name is ema and its the other way round for me, i am bulimic and my boyfriend has to cope with me.

what helps me most from him is when i feel liek talking about it him responding. so if your girlfriend brings it up in conversation take your chance and talk about it as much as you can. also try and understand as best you can, obviously you cant understand everything but dont pretend you understand either.

when you brings it up explain your concerns aswel about the gym because even though she may get defensive at first she will know in her hear tthat you are trying to help her.

also my boyfriend said to me that he doesnt want to be kept in the dark and likes to know how im feeling so i try to tell him as much as i can although its a bit awkward at times, maybe this could work for you too.

also he reassured me that he will not leave me because of this ed and will stick by me through it.

if you feel that way tell your girlfriend as much as you can because you can never say it enough. i try and push my boyfriend away a lot  because i feel he deserves someone better than me who isnt ill and doesnt have mood swings and problems with food, but he makes me realise he loves me for me.

you obviously care about her a lot if you have come on these boards.

i know it can be really hard but she doesnt mean to pick these fights with you, if it is really getting you down there is help availble out there for you too, its a big burden for you to carry, and even though the sufferer will be in a lot of hurt, you have to cope with hers and yours too, so you dont have to alone.

e.x

hey tomriddle.

my name is ema and its the other way round for me, i am bulimic and my boyfriend has to cope with me.

what helps me most from him is when i feel liek talking about it him responding. so if your girlfriend brings it up in conversation take your chance and talk about it as much as you can. also try and understand as best you can, obviously you cant understand everything but dont pretend you understand either.

when you brings it up explain your concerns aswel about the gym because even though she may get defensive at first she will know in her hear tthat you are trying to help her.

also my boyfriend said to me that he doesnt want to be kept in the dark and likes to know how im feeling so i try to tell him as much as i can although its a bit awkward at times, maybe this could work for you too.

also he reassured me that he will not leave me because of this ed and will stick by me through it.

if you feel that way tell your girlfriend as much as you can because you can never say it enough. i try and push my boyfriend away a lot  because i feel he deserves someone better than me who isnt ill and doesnt have mood swings and problems with food, but he makes me realise he loves me for me.

you obviously care about her a lot if you have come on these boards.

i know it can be really hard but she doesnt mean to pick these fights with you, if it is really getting you down there is help availble out there for you too, its a big burden for you to carry, and even though the sufferer will be in a lot of hurt, you have to cope with hers and yours too, so you dont have to alone.

e.x

Hey Tomriddle :)

It's really great you coming on here!

You obviously care about this girl so much, to be researching and trying to get advice.

It may feel like she pushes you away, if you stick with her it could even make your relationship stronger.

When she may push you away, she wont mean it, she wont mean to hurt you.

I know I've always wanted to be able to talk like that. Talk to her, tell her that you're there for her and you will support her and listen to her and help her.

When she seems down, distant or pushing you away, just remember that beneath the shaddow of her eating disorder is the girl you know and love.

All my wishes.

xxx

hi tomriddle,

my sister doesnt suffer from bulimia so i cant help you with that but she does anorexia. she has had a fall out with friends because she feels they dont care. so just give her all the support you can and try and keep her mind of it plus try and keep things as normal as possible.

lu x