Hi, I’ve only posted on here once before and I’m not personally suffering from an eating disorder, but a friend of mine is and i wanted to ask for some advice from people who can relate to what she is going through. I wondered whether anyone could share their experiences of telling their friends or family about their eating disorders. My friend has recently been diagnosed with anorexia and has been encouraged to tell our close group of friends, but is struggling with this, and I don’t know what advice I should offer her. She is concerned that they will judge her – which personally I don’t think they will but obviously I have never experienced this situation myself. Sorry if this post sounds stupid because I’m basically asking for advice to pass on to my friend. also good luck to everyone on here, you are all so very brave,
Thank-you. Hope
Reply post 1: (No Subject)
written by:emma88
posted: 01.05.2008 message:
My closest friends know about my ED, but it is quite obvious when you look at me! But I have found out who my true friends are, if someone judges u on this I don't think they should be your friend, having an ED is hard enough and you need real friends to talk to, mine are really good, always seeing how I am and we still meet up when I am ill, when I was younger we didn't really talk about my ED but now I am almost 20 I am much more open and I have learnt you have to talk to get better, I also discovered that other people at uni had had ED before and they offered advise :) xxx
Reply post 2: (No Subject)
written by:lexy07
posted: 01.05.2008 message:
hey sweetheart,
it doesn't sound stupid at all. you sound like a fab friend to be taking the time to find out how you can help her. at the end of the day it has to be her decision, until then I think just show her that she is still the person that she was before, just ill, and that she can get better.
thank you gorgeous. =)
I hope your friend finds the courage to tell your close friends. things will get easier, but it will take a long time =)
take care,
lexy -xxx-
Reply post 3: (No Subject)
written by:brunette
posted: 13.06.2008 message:
hey, when i had a ED i found it very difficult to let people in on my ED, even though it was probs very obvious. I think it was a pride thing.
But if your friend is willing to share her problem, thats brilliant. Just make sure that you never judge her (im sure u wont) and give her time to open up. Forceing her wont help. Just let her know your willing to help her, but dont 'gang up' on her... if you know what i mean.
A thing i found when i had an ED was peoples lack of knowledge. ED's are in the mind, we dont choose to have them, and we arnt just 'extreme dieters'. in many cases we want to put on weight and be normal, but the thought of eating is just scary for us.
But you sound like a fabulous friend. And i thank you for your concern on her behalf, its times like this when people need to know who their friends are.
I wish your friend all the luck in the world. Maybe get her involved in this website!!
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