How can i help my frined when i have the same problem?

hey

i had the same fing happen

a frend of mine told me she wanted to make herself sik as she wanted to - as she sed it look better- we kno the reality it doesnt do tht wat so ever and we kno its not a choice we make really

it is an illness

do u fink she may actualy kno u suffer n mayb its her way to get close to u ?

i duno its a hard one sorry if i dunt help or offend

how about tellin her about urself? tell her it isnt glamorous n if she dus feel tht strongly to do it tht mayb she shuld get sum help

i understand u must feel bad but how about if u fink it like this - wuld u rather kno about it so u culd b ther after wen she wuld feel a mix of emotions or let her b alone wen it culd seem harder? weva u tryed to stop her not the chances r she would try n not tell u later

i fink the only way is to confrnt her

do u get help urself?

sorry i cnt b help

Hiya,

This is a difficult one. Firstly whatever you do hun you have to think of yourslef too cos u need to make sure that helping her doe´nt make you slip back. I know it sounds selfish but you would´nt be any use to her anyway if you were really really poorly.

Your friend sounds like she has got a real problem and this needs stopping before it get serious.Your friend needs to know that anorexia isn´t glamourous that its actually and illness thats really hard and can make people VERY VERY ill. If u feel you can perhaps talking to your friend about your illness and telling her how it makes you feel?

I know she is your friend but I really think that someone should be told about what your friend is doing before it gets more serious. I hope I have helped a bit and dont sound bossy or anything I just really hate to see people suffering as I had ana to for 4 or 5 years and still suffer a bit sometimes and I dont want to someone trying to make themselves anorexic under the preconception that it will make them happy and its glamourous.

Do u get any help?

Take care,

Love Jennyxxxx

i really cant tell her, i dont know why its so hard to say the words or even to nod when she askes me. i really dont want her to be like me but i dont know who to tell to help her, she has no one expect me and im really not any use x

Hiya,

If u feel u cant tell her then thats fine! But she really does need help and like you say your the only one but that does´nt mean u have to look after her by yourslf.Do u think there could be someone u could tell? I know that u might think well she will fall out with me if I do that but in the long run its the best thing!

As we all know on here if we would have the change to stop our ED before it got hold we all would!

Love Jennyxxx

chance not change - cant type tonight lol

thanks jenny x

Hey,

Does she know about ur ED? Is it possible that she may be thinking that this is a way to help u realise wot ur doing to urself or is this definately her for real? Its just I knew some ppl who thought that pretending that they wanted to be ana was a gd way to help :S

i hope nothin i say offends u :S

Maybe if u feel u cant talk to her directly, u could write her a letter. Its often alot easier to put across what ur thinkin and also seems rlly sincere.

Is there any other person u cd discuss this with? I was in the position where it was just me and a friend and it was hard for both of us, but now its opened up more to just a few more ppl and its alot easier. But i know its rlly tricky to talk to ppl so this may not be possible.

Are u gettin help urself? How r u coping?

Take care of urself xxxxxxxxxxxx

thank you for the message nessa :)

turns out you coulda been right about her pretending to try and help me...but i think all it did was push us apart

im not getting help as such...its too hard to talk to people espically when i feel as though no-one really cares or understands

how are you???

x x x

Hey again,

If she is pretending then she needs to know that this isnt going to help u- maybe if u dont feel u can tell the truth directly to her then in another way like a letter. How is this progressing? has it got clearer wots goin on here?

When u say ur not gettin help as such is there anyone else apart from ur friend who knows about u? Do u think u might be ready to talk to someone about it and get urself some help or atleast some support? Maybe theres another friend u trust not to spread it? I know its a rlly hard thing to talk about but there will be people who do care and want to help and they'll make it easier for u.

Let me know how u r :)

hope ur ok xxxxxx