How to cope with Summer Hols?

Hey hun. I used to be like that but now I try my utmost not to exceed my daily food allowance so that I'm not sick cos of all the dangers of it. Plus I really hate it. I don't know if u read my last post under intro/coping but I basically said that u can not change the past, only the future so don't dwell on it. I also said that to beat this ed u need to work out wat u want in ur life and wat u don't so that u can kick out all the bad things and get all the good things into it. Of course there wil always be bad things that happen, but if uv got direction and its the direction u want things wil be so much easier.

Don't worry about ur final yr. For me I was the illest that I've ver been but I made it thro' and passed and am graduating soon. U can do the same. As for distractions, try going for a walk, ringing up some mates and chatting, learning a new language, going out on day trips etc. These things will all help to distract u from the purging but ultimately its going to take time cos u have 2 train ur mind not to be desperate for food or that food is by no means a bad thing. It wil take a lot of strength and the road wil not be easy, but u WILL get there. If I can be any more help, let me no. How have things been thus far?? aml Adele.

hiya! im Danielle and im 16 however i did hav bulima i had binge eating disorder. i found the summer hols the hardest time of the year with and ED , the things that distracted me from the bad habits was goin and seeing family or goin on trips with friends when ever i could. but u z u wer at uni maybe u could do extra revision or sumfin (dunno how uni works lol).

remember that you have came so far and done so well in the past few years and that u are strong enough to not let this beat u!

if u ever need to talk i am here!

Danielle xox

Hey, thank you both for your replies!

Adele, things have been OK thanks, not any worse so that's something! Do you mind me asking how long you've had an ed for? U sound a lot more rational than me lol I wish I thought like u! I try not to think about what's happened in the past, like nothing major's happened really, I just wanna move on and put this behind me so I can enjoy what's left of uni and hopefully get a first! I'm just scared of what I'll do instead of being sick and a lot's changed this year and I don't really adapt well to change so I'm finding hard to start letting go... ahhh!!! Can't even think about it! will try to get out of the house and stuff, all I wanna do is run but it got me into bad habits before so I'll have to find something new to do!

How do u know what your food allowance is? Did u work it out urself or did u get professional help? R u recovering or recovered? Sorry loads of questions! Hope you're doing OK?

Hey Danielle, thanks for the encouragement, stay positive, it makes such a difference if you're in that frame of mind! How are things with you at the moment? You just done your GCSEs? Hope they went OK!?

Xxx 

Hey, I've been worried about weight and wat I eat and stuff for at least 6 yrs but things only progressed about 3yrs ago wen I started being sick and bingeing and now its restrictive eating. So my food allowance is negligable really, watever I eat is too much especially if its wat I consider 2b the bad stuff. So altho' I'm full of good advice and technically a very rational person, and I no that things aren't quite right I'm in denial and don't actually believe I'm ill altho' I'm under BMI now.  I have support from 1 of my friends and we wil prob go c some1 2gether, but like u I'm scared of letting go and even more terrified of gaining wt, eating around ppl unless its super healthy food, and going out 4dinner etc. I actually took some of my own advice 2day and went out 4 a walk cos I cld feel the b-p coming on, it actually worked and it was very refreshing in the rain.

Hun, have u been 2c some1 about this? It sounds like u really want 2 get better and u wil need loads of support to do that, so it wld really, really help u I'm sure. Here 4u aml Adelex/x

hiya! being in the frame of mind 4 stayin positive is hard but its well worth it when it actually does happen!

yea just done my GCSE's they wer ok but i shulda revised 4 them get my results on the 29th august.

but goin on hols 4 10 days i leave 2morrow im happy but gunna miss talkin 2 pple on here

Adele, well done for confiding in your friend, I managed to tell someone not long ago just to get some advice and coz I knew I hardly see her and she lives miles away so I could get away from it if I needed to but I don't really like talking about it so tend to not say anything and she won't push me to talk so it's OK. Went to a GP about 2 years ago and got sent to 2 counsellors but I hated it so stopped going and I found it really hard to lie to my housemates about where I was going etc.

Well done for getting out of the house too, I didn't manage it today but I found the live chat thing they have on here and it distracted me for an hour and was really good to hear other people's advice, I keep telling myself to phone the youth line but I'm actually petrified coz I can't talk out loud about things for some reason, I dial the number then close my phone, grrr!! It's good that you're thinking about getting help, have you been to a GP or anything? Even if you don't take up the counselling they can check you over and make sure you're not damaging yourself too much which in itself can be quite reassuring.

Danielle, hope you have a great holiday, stay strong, you seem to be positive about beating this so think about all of your own advice if things get harder! Well done for the GCSEs, what are you planning on doing next? Sixth Form/college? Or work/gap year?

Xxx 

thanks lol. i may seem positive but its easier to put on a face than to tell the truth. im gunna go til NRC and do a childcare with special needs kids diplomia.

Yeah I know the feeling! The diploma sounds cool, will keep you busy too, I've worked with underprivileged kids and disabled children and it's really good fun! hope u enjoy it! How was your holiday?

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