Binging

Hey,

I'm a similar age (23) and have only just joined the boards. I saw that no one had answered so I thought I would say hi!

I'm sorry that things have got harder again for you, and it's tough when you know things are getting out of control and you're worried about it.

Firstly..please don't take laxatives! 

As far as the bingeing is concerned maybe try a snack inbetween meals so you're eating more often and this may break the need to binge as you are eating more continuously, but not as much as you might do in a binge. Everyone needs to do what suits them though.

Maybe try and speak to someone about how you are feeling. I know this can be hard, but if you have had problems before then it may help prevent things getting too bad again.

 I hope things start to get better for you!

hey sweetheart,

I'm 17 and went from restricting to binge eating a couple of months ago.

As of yet I'm afraid I can't suggest any strategies to stop the bingeing, but I know how horrible it makes you feel and am always here if you ever want to talk or rant.

let me know how things are going,

take care sweetheart,

lexy -xxx-

Heya,

I suffer from binging then starving episodes.  I am trying to stop and I find that delaying the binge so feeling the need to binge but stopping it for about five minutes and doing somethingelse in those five minutes often helps. And then I am meant to lengthen the periods though I have not got much further than 10 minutes.  It takes a lot of will power but does work.  Sorry can't give much more.

If you are really worried then go back to your GP they may have some other stratagies.

Take care.

xxx

I guys, thanks for your support it means such alot to know you are there and to have your encouragement. Things been going ok but hade a little trouble again last night. I seem to be ok for about 3-4days then slip up. Last night was day 4, I don't feel hungry but just shattered so tend to pick. I don't feel like I have much energy for anything else and just generally listless so end up eating too much. Last night wasn't a full blown binge but just alot of picking which added up to eating quite alot over a few hours.

Any advise on what to do on these times, and why it is every 4th day?

I guys, thanks for your support it means such alot to know you are there and to have your encouragement. Things been going ok but hade a little trouble again last night. I seem to be ok for about 3-4days then slip up. Last night was day 4, I don't feel hungry but just shattered so tend to pick. I don't feel like I have much energy for anything else and just generally listless so end up eating too much. Last night wasn't a full blown binge but just alot of picking which added up to eating quite alot over a few hours.

Any advise on what to do on these times, and why it is every 4th day?

 hey

im 20 and have a similar porblem. im not really sure what to do when ur feeling like that... but a few ideas..

try going to bed a bit earlier? then u cant pick. and read a book or watch a film to try distract urself without it being to tiring. or maybe a bath, altho i find that hard coz i dont like to see myself. im not really sure, coz i find all these things so hard to put in2 practice myself. also, if its every 4th  day could u try next time thinkin, well its the 4th day so i wont binge 2day but i can 2moro. then it becomes every 5th day, and u might not feel like it by then anyway. and if u do, every 5th day is still less? i duno just an idea. i should probably try that myself lol!

good luck

hollie xxx 

hey sweetheart,

I'm not really sure what to say on that front I'm afraid.

maybe you could try the suggestions mentioned above of distracting yourself from thinking about the binge?? what sort of things do you enjoy doing?? have anything you absolutely love to do?? more than anything else??

let me know how things are going,

take care sweetheart,

lexy -xxx-

Heya sweety,

No probs for the support and encouragement.  Like hollie said try and tell yourself that you can binge tomorrow if you are good today.  But everyday keep telling yourself this so eventually you get out of the habit of binging.

You could also try going out for a walk when you feel like binging and only return to the house when you feel like the urge has stopped.  ALso try writting your thoughts down around the times that you feel like binging.  This may help you work out what it is that is making you binge and what is different on the 4th day to the other days.

take care.

xxx

Hi thanks thats really helpful. I do really enjoy running and have started going again. This has helped as after exercise it is later when I get home and I tend not too binge. It tends mainly to be evenings I come home  and am tired annd then there's a long evening for me to fill.

I am now on revision leave for my final exams/ Hopefully the structure of my day will change abit so I won't have the same sort of tiredness. I think it is hard to do much other than read or watch tv on nights i am tired and with revision feel abit guilty if i go out too much.

Hope all is going ok with all of you nad good luck Hollie. Thanks for what you said and I hope it starts getting easier for you too

xx

hey sweetheart,

good luck with the revision! I know how that feels!!

let me know how things are going,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

Heya sweety,

It sounds like things are going really well for you.  I too am on revision leave before my exams start in 2 weeks but I am not at home for it but at uni which is quite far away from home...not sure what possessed me to go so far I guess it was to get away from things thinking that it would make me better but It has done the opposite.  until recently when I decided that I would get help again where I am now my eating patterns have not been great and I have struggled to keep them as normal as possible as have no one to watch over what I do and do not eat.  Believe you me my flat mates are so used to me hardly eating they think it's normal when actually I wish that one of them would find out and sut me down and with me to force me to eat what is infront of me and not to throw food away. I am on a down at the moment but hopefully with some support up here I can try to get back to a normal eating pattern.

When is your first exam?

Take care and keep being strong. 

*hugs*

xxx

Hi good luck with your exams, my first is 3wks tomo am getting quite nervous. Thanks for all your help. My eating is doing better and tomo will be a week of not binging, or over picking so that will be really exciting.

Im sorry 'butterflies 32' that things have not been going so well for you lately. It sounds like hyou are being really strong and are aware of your needs. If we can support you in anyway let us know. I sometimes find revision helps me with my eating as my breaks get structured around my meals.

Yesterday I took myself off for a lovely afternoon walk in the sun as a break which was fantastic. It helped rejuvinate my brain and prevented me from binging, so 2 good things.

Thanks again everyone, it is great having you guys here

take care

love liz

hey sweetheart,

I cannot wait for the exams to be over!

I have so much that I want to say but just don't have the energy to think how to word it at the moment so will just say that things are awful.

sorry to be so negative hunni,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

Heya,

Thank you. Weldone on the week of not binging that is really really good. It sounds that you are starting to feel better too.  Eating during breaks of revision sounds like a good idea.  I will try that.

Keep going strong you are doing really well.

Take care

xxx

Hi lexy, sorry to hear things aren't going well... Am thinking of you. Will be hear if you feel like writing or when you have the energy to do so.

I had a slightly less good day with eating, tonight I was a little picky, was on verge of about to binge though and stopped still picked abit but pleased I controlled myself

hey sweetheart,

going on a date tonight. hopefully will lift my spirits a little.

sorry its so short a post. don't know what else to say at the moment.

lexy -xxx-

Hope your date went well. I am v down today. Had a big binge last night. Think it is often when I am in on my own in the evening. Good a headache and pains everywhere this morning, just really rough.

Sorry not to be more positive just feeling v low

xx

awww sweetheart *hugs*

it went okay.didn't make me feel any more positive though tbh.

have had really bad days of bingeing recently.

let me know how you are,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

Hi sorry for my last miserble mail. I'm feeling alot better today having survived yesterday and am back trying to be sensible. What I was really pleased about this time is that I didn't enjoy my binge even at the time. I think the main trigger was loneliness after a day of revision alone I was alone in the evening and wasn't enjoying 'relaxing' and was bored. There were several times I almost didn't binge and the feeling not to was alot stronger this time. I am going to try to remember the feeling of disappointment in the binge as a trigger not to give into it next time.

Fingers crossed

xxxx

hey sweetheart,

you really don't have to apologise for the negative post last time, I'm going to have one this time.

I have found it difficult to get myself to do anything these past couple of days. I havent even managed to get myself to college today =(.

let me know how things are going,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

Things are going better again. After a really dwon day I was pleased to have got through and am gradually pulliny myself up again, just need to avoid another binge really.

I hope you feel better soon. I think facing the world can be really hard somedays. Yesterday was the first day back to uni for several weeks and I was apprehensive as it was out of my normal schedule. I know over the weekend I didn't want to see anyone and I felt happier shut in my house. I think somedays we just need to go through that but other times if we can make the push although it is hard it really helps in the long run. I was worried about my size yesterday and how that may have changed since I last saw everyone but I just tried to remember they were my friends and they wouldn't mind it was me they wanted to see not my scales.

You may have very different feelings and experiences than that so if the above doesn't help please ignore it. I hope you feel better more able to face things soon, it does happen and each big hurdle we take becomes smaller and smaller the next time we have to overcome it.

take care

liz xx

hey sweetheart,

well I managed to get to college today, but am still feeling pretty down. =(

I don't really knowwhy, just having a down time, but I'm sure it will pass =)

sorry its such a short post, don't really know what to say,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

hey

lexy: 

ive been reading this post quite a bit, altho havnt posted on it much myself. but quite a lot of it applies to me! but i just wanted to say lexy, i know you're finding it difficult at the moment, but i think maybe you dont always see your own strengths or what you are doing. u always manage to reply to others and offer them support, now matter how you are feeling and i think that this shows so much inner strength and courage, probably more than u realise. u will get there, even if it does take a while. because to me u seem like such a fighter. i just wanted to maybe help u see what others see in you.

 lizlamb:

well done for pulling yourself up, i know how hard that is. what you said about your friends made me think, coz its so true. when i went home at easter i didnt see my friends coz i didnt want them to see me. i wish id thought about like you have. keep takinfg those steps forward.

 lotsa love hollie

xxx 

Well done for making it to college that's really good well done, i know how hard it can be to go out and face te world when you are feeling down and what a big leap it is which many around us don't even realise. I hope you feel abit better soon. I think sometimes there is no one explanation as to what is making us down but steps like trying to go out really help/ I always find it hard to make myself look nice when down and always wear dowdy clothes and forget to do my hair but when I try and wash my hair and put on something nice these things do make a difference even though they are so so hard to do at the time

Hope today is a better day

thinking of you

liz x

hey guys,

hollie - thank you so much for your message sweetheart! =)

it means a lot to me when people say things like that about me. =)

how are things going for you hunni?

liz - I know what you mean. I really haven't been looking after myself recently. I managed to go to college again today and had my counselling session this afternoon.

let me know how things are going,

take care guys,

lexy -xxx-

Hollie your message was so lovely both to me and Lexy, thank you. I hope things are ok with you

Well done lexy for going to college and councelling that's really gr8 well done.

I'm battling with my head abit this morning went out for dinner last night I know what I ate is 'ok' but was more for me so trying to rationalise eating more and it not being a binge, but think it was ok......

Hope your days go well, am thinking of you all

liz xx

hey sweetheart,

thank you =)

well done to you too - keep thinking positively!

my day has been okay - had therapy this morning and talked a lot about my anxiety levels at the moment. how has your day been? up to anything interesting?

let me know how things are going,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

Hi it sounds like things are going abit better, Im really pleased keep it up. I have finished my week of professional responsibility lectures so am back revising. Was abit down last night as yesterday was the last time all the yr will be together again until results but is was lush weather so went for a walk with my fiance and washed a trashy film.

Revision is slow and trying hard not to focus on my weight throughout the time I am supposed to be studying. Am trying to either meet up with people in the evenings or treat myself with a film to try and gve myself a treat after a day of work and also to distract myself from ending up in the kitchen cupboard.

I hope all is well with you, you are doing so well.

I really appreciate your mails it is lovely to know you are there, thank you

have a good day

liz x

hey sweetheart,

you're welcome =)

thank you soooo much for your support gorgeous *hugs*

my day has been okay, but I am shattered now, so sorry this is such a short post.

let me know how things are going,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

Hi that's ok, thanks for yours. Im glad your day has been ok, what you been up to?

I am revising still!!!!

Things are good, although my mood does tend to fluctuate. I went out last night to see some friends am really pleased I went as really enjoyed it and came back feeling loads better, having been unsure about going as the time got nearer.

Am on my own again tonight which is my danger time but am hoping to try to keep myself busy and away from cupboards, maybe with some exciting husework and a film.

Hope things are going well with you. Your last few posts have sounded more positive. Hope you get to do something nice this eve

Thanks again for all your lovely messages

liz xx

hey sweetheart,

things have gone a bit down to be honest.

going out with some friends tonight, but really don't want to go.

let me know how things are going,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

Hi im sorry to hear you are down is there anything in particular? let me know if i can help in anyway am always here to listen....

Things not too bad here. Beginning to worry abit about exams but trying to stay calm. Was pleased yesterday as looked and it was 10d since I last binged so hopng to make 2 weeks. Now i have a regular timetable its not too bad...... and I am learning to keep myself busy if I feel the need. I am also trying to have an afternoon snack so I don't get ravenous and this seems to help.

It is beautiful weather here and am going to break from rev to mow grass (how dull) before going into uni to look at abit there. Really want to make my friends some * for tomo but am concerned if get some ingredients in ay just eat them myself.

I think it would be a nice thing to do so will aim not to eat all the scrapings and throw away the left over so i dont scoff the lot

I hope ou feel better soon. Hows college and councelling going?

What are you studying at college?

Hope you are ok, and am always here....

take care love lizx

hey sweetheart,

anxiety is just really high at the moment =(

college and counselling are going okay, but finding it difficult. have my psychology exam next friday and really am not ready for it.

studying drama, psychology and rs/philosophy,

let me know how things are going,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

Hi Im so so sorry for my delayed reply. My boyfriend has been ill so Ive been looking after him and havent checked the web for a few days. I am so sorry to hear the anxiety is so high atm. Was the psychology exam yesterday? if so how was it?

Rs and philosophy sound really interesting. You sound far more artistic than me. What do you want to do when you finish studying.

My exams start thurs and am really quite scared now. they finish a week thurs so fingers crossed till then.....

Eating going ok. The old fears of weight are creeping back but I think that may be because I seem to have increased. Maybe its just inactivity of the last couple of weeks. Hopefully once exams over can start being abit more healthy and encorporate a little exercise

Anyway i hope you are ok

sorry again for late reply

love liz

hey sweetheart,

no worries.

on medication for my anxiety now, =(

psychology exam is next friday.

I'm really sorry I don't know what to say,

take care gorgeous,

lexy -xxx-

Hi thanks for message, you sound a bit blue... hope the revision is going well.... mine is very tedious, not long to go though which im really stressing about. Eating going okish but have had a few unplanned snacks, but think being pretty good.

Don't feel too down about the pills. I was put on 'happy pills' as I call them about a year ago. I remember being totally devastated at the time and really struggled with the idea of taking them. I wasn't on them too long in the end about 6m and them along with councelling did help/ They just provided a bit of a lift to pick me out of a real low. I think it is hard when we are depressed to think of good things or to have the motivation to go out and try things everything feels like such a mountain and there is such a weight of tiredness

If what I say is not helpful im sorry, but I know how I felt. It is different looking back on it to when you are in the moment. I remember feeling so lonely and although there were people around some of who had experienced the same or similar experiences I still remember feeling so isolated and alone

Keep up the strength. You are such a lovely person and have so much to give, and from what you write you have so much strength.

Take care

liz x

hey sweetheart,

I'm also on medication for depression, and my therapist is talking about putting me on more medication.

revision is going okay, but I am absolutely exhausted - only getting 3/4 hours sleep a night.

glad to hear your eating is going okay =)

take care gorgeous,

lexy -xxx-

Hi glad rev ok, guess its not long now. Hope you start getting more sleep. Mine start tomo, also shattered. Seem to want to sleep at all the wrong times. My car has also just broken so going to have to taxi in tomo which is a little annoying, never mind.

Eating ok atm seeming pretty stable cant wait to get outside and do something different and active rather than sitting staring at words all day.

Hope your day goes well today.

take care,

liz xx

hey sweetheart,

good luck for tomorrow.

lexy -xxx-

Thanks for your message good luck today hope it goes well

xx

thanks =)

I can't do this anymore!!!!

-xxx-

Hi sorry not to have replied exams been all week and haven't logged on. Are you ok? What cant you do anymore? How was your exam? How is the eating? Are you ok? Im sorry I have been so rubbish lately

Thinking of you

love liz

hey sweetheart,

that's okay. hope they went okay?

things aren't great - may be admitted in the near future, but am trying to hold on so that it doesn't happen ...

you haven't been rubbish at all sweetheart!!

keep in touch,

take care gorgeous,

lexy -xxx-