Periods- HELP!

Hey Lizzie, I'm Molly

Hunny, we're all here to help you, so if somethings on your mind, talk to us!!

First of all, are you entirely sure your periods have stopped? How long ago was your last one? They could have irregular because you may be stressed? If not - and you know for fact that its because of your ED - then you should visit you GP. Or you nurse. They may be able to refer you to the hospital for tests and maybe even for specialist help with your ED (if you are not already getting support).

Tell me a bit about yourself - how are you doing generally? What type of ED do you have? How old are you etc...

The one thing I will say to you sweetie is that you must keep fighting because there are so many things to get better for!!! Recovery is a long process, but is worth it!!

I'm 16 and have battled anorexia for 4 years. I had 2 periods in September and November or last year and have had nothing siince. It gets me down too because all my friends seem happy and developed and they have sexy curves and fabulous figure and I still look like a child. I long for breasts because I think they are so womanly, but until I start my period properly, I have no hope. Sorry to put this conversation on such a downer!!!

Anyway drop me a post when your next online hunny!

Love Molly xXx

hey sweetie,

feel free to let your emotions out on here at any time. I will always be here to listen hunni.

don't let this stop you from reaching your goal hunni!! you can still beat this. just because your periods have stopped does not mean that you will not be able to have children.

I know it may not seem like it, but this may provide you with an incentive to get better sweetie as you can only get your periods back by eating a healthy, balanced diet, and so by having the dream to have children, this may help you in the long run.

am always here if you want to talk,

take care sweetie,

lexy -xxx-

Its Lizzie again!

Im 14 and i ve had anerexia for bout 1yr nd hv jst strtd 2 c a therapist privatley. im also seein a nutritionist 2. im meant 2 b on this eatin plan nd ive kinda been missin out tha stuf im meant 2 b havin @ school cos ive been so down nd cnt focus on eatin at all!

My period was due last mnth

Im really down cos i had a binge nd literally dreamin of **** nd ********! Ive nevr really felt this bad b4 bout bingin nd things hv seemed 2 gt wrse now my periods hv stoppd my lif seems 2 b fallin apart.

My parents hv been really supportiv bt my lil sis dnt no nd keeps pesterin me bout my periods. I cnt stop cryin!

I really wanna exrcise properly again 2 cos im bein waatched all tha time incase i exercise nd loose ny mre weit! Im nt allowd 2 do pe nymre nd peopl r askin qs! I jst say ive gt a bad foot.

Im sooooo stressed!

Thanks 4 ur advice,

talk soon i hope!!!!!

Lurve Lizzie xxx

hey hunni,

I know that it is not what you want, but people are only watching you as they don't want to lose you sweetie, and they are scared that that is what is going to happen.

I know that it is horrible when you binge. I would feel so guilty if I ate something that I hadn't planned for that day, normally something that most people would eat every day, and yet I would feel like I had eaten way too much and felt fat and disgusting afterwards.

I still feel like that now when I binge, but my binges really are binges now unfortunately!

have you seen anyone about how low you are feeling all the time?? they might be able to give you something to help you cope hunni.

love always,

take care sweetie,

lexy -xxx-

Its easter! Woop Woop! Its my 1st easter nd its gunna b awful.

Its gonna b chocolate, chocolate nd mre chocolate! FAB! Im gonna put on so much weit over this weekend!

Really depressed. I need sme help. Does any1 no how 2 cope wit easter? Is it really bad? Christmas was awful let alone easter! How do u say no 2 persuadin nd pesturin parents?

Aaaaaarrrrrrrrrgggggghhhhhhh! Things seem 2 b gettin worse nd im gettin really obsessive .Any tips?

Thanx again lexy nd every1 else!

Luv Lizzie xx xx

awww hunni!!

things may not be as bad as you think sweetie.

try and distract yourself by doing something that you enjoy such as readin, listening to music, anything at all really - anything that is going to make you happy and make you realise how much you have to live for hunni!!

I haven't had to cope with easter yet but found christmas incredibly difficult, and have not been looking forward to easter to say the least!

hope you're okay hun,

thinking of you!

lexy -xxx-

hey sweetie... a couple of years ago i also went through a minor ed phase. My periods also stopped for a good few months and its weird because when you have them every monht you wish you wouldn't have them, but when you don't have them you really miss them lol.... after i started eating properly again and gained weight they came back after a couple of months however, if it's left for a long time it could be really dangerous.

i know it will be hard but you should try to put some weight back on and just keep at a steady weight for a while and wait for them to return.

xx

hi =]

my name is becky! and i had anorexia for roughly just under a year, and it is coming back up to the time when the ED began, but instead of being sad about it, i am happy and proud of how far i have come!

my periods stopped for about 5 months because i was hardly eating anything. i was scared that my periods had stopped because i wanted to have children when i grew up, b ut i was more scared of eating. It got to the point where i was admitted into an ED hospital because my weight had dropped and i was suffering with depression and postural hypotension. I started off struggleing big time, but as time passed by i was mentally healthier, but as for weight gain, i still had far to go. However i did still have my ups and downs but, i had found faith, courage and willpower to get myself better, and eat food without the need of exercising or feeling guilty because all of this food was putting the much need nutrients back into my poor, feeble body.In this hospital i was seen as an insperation because i did my best to help the other children because i wanted to see them smile again just like i was!

my stay in the hospital was just 6 weeks, which is really unusual considering the state i had come into the hospital. But as i ahd done incredibly well in the hospital i was allowed to go gone and become an outpatient much to my delight. However i was worried that the voice would return and make me loose all of the weight i had gained whilst beiung hospitalized but because i was much more stronger and determined the voice didn't return, and still 6 months on from coming home, i have not heard a peep because if it does come back it knows i will never let it get its way again!! because i am strong enough to deal with it!!!! and my periods have returned for 5 months now, which was extremely lucky, but odd too because it was unusual for them to return at the weight they did, but it does'nt matter because at least i can have a bright and happy future!!!

Oh and i have recently been completely discharged for good. No  more weigh-ins, counciling sessions, nothing. I'ts in my past now, its over and done with. I am now looking forward to life, but i still talk about my anorexia to others because my ambition, not only to keep on the straight and narrow, is to help others and get them through this.

much love x x becky x x

Hey! Thanx for ur replies!

ive been contacted by an ed team nd yesterdai i had 2 hv blood tests nd stuff, heart scans, wee samples (lol!) nd other stuff to see how my bodys reactin!

Wen i was younger i had a problm wit my heart witch makes me more risk of me being evn mre ill nd a greatr risk of collapsin! thats y im not allowd 2 walk up tha stairs witout bein accompanied!

Im scared stif 2 go 4 my 1st appointmnt, i dnt evn no wats gonna happn! mum has only spokn 2 them on the fone 2 arrange tha tests nd my 1st appointmnt so she cnt tell me much either. Really worried bout the test results!                                                 The hospitl r really worried thats y ive got an emergncy appointmnt on Monday! Wat if i hv 2 go in2 hospitl cos stuf is mre worse than now!

It wil b a year egzactly next week since it all startd so ive got that 2 deal wit on top of everytin else!!!!!

Thanx 4 ur help wit easter! i literally stayd in my room all day!

Wat is hospital lyk nd how do i cope?

More importantly how r u guys???? Soz 4 goin on so long, just so worried!

Thanx nd Luvs ya! Lizzie xxxx

hey sweetheart,

no worries about going on for so long, and you have every right to be worried!!!

let me know how your appointment goes on monday sweetie, hope all goes well xx

I've not been in hospital so I can't really tell you I'm afraid hunni.

I'm not doing great at the mo, but hey we all have our ups and downs.

take care sweethearts,

lexy -xxx-

hi =]

i remember what it was like going to my first appointment. It was very traumatic and i cried alot. :( i was told over and over that i would die if i did'nt eat but it just never sunk in, and i think i was just not strong enough to realize what i was doing to myself, or rather what the voice was doing to me.

It is coming up to the time when i got reli ill as well but instead of being sad about it i am proud of how far i have come! =]

hospital is quite scary at first because you just know that in this placwe your going to be fed and that there are strict rules however the rules are there for your benefit so that you can get better and enjoy lifeee again!!!!

the staff are strict but thats what they have to be like, but they are very nice and are supportive all of the way.

and me? im ok thanks! i am feeling really positive atm about food and weight. how are you doing?? let me knw if theres anything else u wanna know about hospital.

much love <3 x x x becky x x x

Appointment went awful! Im severly ana. She wntd 2 put me in2 hospitl cos my heart is really really bad and cos im so underweit.

Spose its better me bein monitord than me collapsin with stress on my heart if i do hv 2 go in.

Cos i wasnt properly on their books she didnt wanna put me in bt now i am on them.

Cant stop skippin meals nd havin an exercise overload @ tha mo. I just cant stop nd wit this goin on its tha only way i can relieve tha worry even though its really bad 4 me. Dunno wat 2 think bout this nymre!

Lizzie xxxx

hey sweetheart,

I'm really sorry that things are so difficult right now.

as long as you can stay strong you can beat this sweetie,

take care and let me know how things are sweetheart,

lexy -xxx-

hey there...x

im reli sorry to hear that your appointment did'nt go very well. =[

i remember what my review's were like. my first one was also particularl bad. severly underweight and my heart could've gave in at any second =[ a bit like your sitaution, but hey, i got outta it, and so can u!!!!! so be positive!!!! x

you have got to keep eating, and try your best not to exercise. i know that there is so much temptation but, your killing yourself, and as hard as it must be to hear i think that hospital is the best place for you. You are terribly ill and are in need of help!!!

i just want to give u a massive hug but im afraid i might hurt you =[ you need weight to survive hunni, you need food to survive. As much as you may hate going to hospital, it will get you better, just co-operate with the staff, and eat as you should and you will get better and realize what the illness has put you through and you will come out of it as a much stronger person like i have =] x

take care, good luck x]

keep strong x

it would be nice to hear from you again x becky x

Thanx 4 bein there i really appreciate it.

2dai there was a cancellation @ tha hoapital so they gave me an appointment. Thankfully im not talkin from in hospital.

I have lost more weit ! Ive never lost that much in so quickly b4! They said ive got 2 weeks to show them im not gonna loose weit. Otherwise it will be inpatient treatment. My food plan has been added 2.

I no its meant 2 b keepin me alive (which is well important- i admit) but i cant cope @ tha mo nd extra nd tha holidays so i cant skip meals easily. Fab news.

I wanna keep strong but i feel so awful nd wanna give up.

I feel like ive ruined my own life nd my families 2. Especially my mums. We cry nd cry 2gether 4 ages every day. Im makin her freak out aswell as myself. Im puttin her through hell, i can cope doin that 2 myslf but my mum????!!!! I feel awful.

Thanx again, Lizzie xxxx

hey sweetheart,

I remember sitting with my mum some days and us both just being in floods of tears. To be honest I think she was one of the main reasons I first decided I wanted help - had it not been for those around me I would not have tried to fight to gain my life back, but although things are still incredibly difficult I can see now that things would have been so much worse had I not had that support.

of course you mum doesn't want to lose you sweetheart, you're her baby girl, but you have to fight this yourself sweetheart, unfortunately no-one can do it for you.

take care,

lexy -xxx-

Does periods stoppnig mean you definitly can't have children? I want them so much when i'm older, but it turned out the only reason i had period was because i was on the pill, now i'm not and they've gone.

Supporting you all the way

xxxx

heya

i am not exactly sure, but i think if your periods have completely stopped and have been for a while, your chances of having children is minimum.

luckilu my periods returned after 5 months which was really rare so i feel quite lucky even tho periods are a pain! but at leats i can have kids when im older!!!

beckii x x x

Heya,

I am lucky to not have been or got to the situation were it has got so bad that my periods have stopped.  I am going ot try and lift your spirits with this message and I hope I am able to.

If you start eatinf again properly you periods may return. Keep strong all of you. with the help you need you can get your periods back and maybe get the chance to start a family.

Keep going and take care.

xxx

Heya 'ur beautiful'

Things seem tough for you? How is it all going now? In paitient is scary but they only want to keep you alive and get you better...if you can show them you won't lose weight then out paitient treatment will be given...which I guess is preferable. 

You are doing so well getting the help you need and accepting that you have a problem. For as long as you see this there will be something inside you keeping you strong.  You can beat this, It will take time and yes you will want to give up but is given up the real you? or is that the ana trying to keep control? the fact that you have seen someone will make ana want to fight harder to control you.  But you are strong. Keep telling yourself this.  You can do it.

Take care let me know how you are geting on.

*hugs*

xxx

heya guys...x

i just want to say that i think "butterflies32" is exaclty right. you do have to kep telling yourself that you are strong and eventually you will feel strength that you have never felt before. Ive experienced that getting thru ana has made me a much stronger person who has control and sees the goodness inside of me, and to nor let the bad get me down because nobody is perfect. you are who you are and that is who you need to learn to love. there are faults about me but nonetheless i always have the good to fall back on.

so keep telling yourslef that you are beautiful and strong because behined the voice and the ana that is who you are and always will be. so hunnie. keep going because you WILL beat this.

loves x x x beckii x x x

Soz i hvnt put in a post 4 ages. I hvnt had tha time im bein monitored 24/7 but thankfully its at home!!!!! Im so relieved!

My weight is still dropping. Im gettin really stressed out tho.

And i really wanna buy a magazine or one of those really cheap gossipy ones. I no i shouldnt but i feel like i hv 2!

Im soooooooooooo stressed which is makin me get in2 arguments wit every1.

Cnt wait til i go bak 2 sch.

I really wannna give up, i cnt cope anymre!

Thanx 4 bein there, u guys r gr8!

Lurve Lizzie xxxx

hey lizzie....!

im feeling stressed too but i am keeping on the straight and narrow because i know ho hard anorexia is. and i dont wanna fall bk as ive come so far. =]

when i read magazines i just ignore how unhealthy looking and thin the girls are, and i no longer aspire to be like that, i feel reli sorry for them, i see bones, not the perfect figure.

hunnie, in order to get bk to school you need to get better, because u wont be going bk until you do sweetheart.

plz dont give up!!!!!!! fight it all the way!!! it will get easier!!!!

loves x x beckii x x

hey sweetheart,

please don't give up. whenever you feel like you can't cope anymore why not try thinking of all the things in life you have to live for.

let me know how things are going,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

Heya sweety,

I really want to give you a hug right now. I am so sorry you are finding things tough at the moment. 

I take it that magazines are abad influence on you??? otherwise I do not see a problem with you getting one and reading it.  Everyone needs time out.  If they are could you not buy one and instead of looking at the skinney people and think I need to look like that could you not look at them and think urgh theyre gross looking they are a stick.  I know it is really hard I look at the magazines that my flat mates bring home and really struggle when I see the skinney models it makes me not want to eat for ages after coz that is how I want to be myself.  If you can't do this could you not just try and focus on the words of the magazine instead of the pictures??

Do you have any stress releasing techniques like having a hot bath or curling up and watching one of your favorite movies. When you do tis try not to compare yourself to what you are seeing but just let it flow over you non judgementally. Either of these are good to do when you are on a 24/7 watch 

Keep going strong you are doing really really well.  You can get through this and beat it.  You can do this just keep trying.

Let me know how you are doing.

Take care.

big big hugs

xxx

hi, u guys make me cry evry time i look at this page! u r fab nd i really wanna thank u 4 ur amazin advice.

I cant give up, of course i cant. Im such a silly cow. U guys really made me feel much better 2dai.

Mum fed me a * and i thought i was gonna start goin down the bullimia route until i red ur posts. I wanna get better so much!!!!

I just never knew it would be this hard.

Im goin 2 c tha hospital again on Friday,

Let u no how it goes, Luv u all, Lizzie xxxx

hey sweetheart,

you are not a silly cow, but I'm glad you want to recover hunni!!

it is going to be so so hard, but you can beat it sweetheart!!

let me know how things are going and let me know how the hospital appointment goes sweetheart,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

Heya,

Weldone with not purging and I am pleased that you are feeling a little happier.  You are not a silly cow you are amazing and strong and like all of us u have your bad days.  You will get better just hang in there.

Good luck for friday, I hope it goes ok.

Take care hun,

love and *hugs*

xxx

Hey everyone!

Im feelin alot better. My weit stayed the same which meant that theyve upped my food intake which is hard but i know ive got to get better.

I also went for a heart scan so they could see if me heart was working properly and to see if it had shrunk but thankfully all is normal!

Ive got some BIG news. Im movin schools. Im really excited by sooooo nervous and worried bout eatin. I will have extra support from my mum if i need it cos she works there but im worried people might find out and not want to be friends with me.

Love Lizzie xxxx

hey sweetheart,

if they don't want to be friends with you then they are incredibly stupid!!

glad to hear that you are feeling better and that all is normal =)

let me know how things are going,

take care,

lexy -xxx-

hia on the topic pf periods.... i havnt had any for 3 years now and im scared that its going to effect me when im older and wonder if anyone knows the health risks associated with it? xxx sarah

Oh My Gosh hunni,

Sometimes periods come back but they do when your body is normal and has recovered from this, i dont want to scare you.

Are you ok? Ever need to talk im here,

Lizzie xx

thanx lizzie your such a caring person . wel... my weight hasnt been high enough to hav periods for years no but im scared what damage its doing and if im oing to be able to have children when im older or not.... its horrible beacuse being thin seems to mean more than health when it reall shouldn't. i hope i have done long term damage and can't have children. is evberything ok with yours now? xxx

I'd say have a word with your gp if your worried about it.

 I'm on the pill so still have periods...so worried about ever coming off it, there so different to how was before....im convinced the pill is the only reason they're still happening.....argh

Youre all right you have to talk to the gp if your  worried but i should think that if there hasnt been alot of damage then you will be ok x

Lizzie x

Im 14 and Ive never had a period thanks to the anorexia! Im really worried that I might not get it until really late on in life! All my friends have started and it seems strange to want it really but I haven't developed at all and I haven't really grown much in three years so I still luk the same as wen I was in primary and im almost yr 10 so i completely get wot ur saying but it will be okay :)

Im 14 and Ive never had a period thanks to the anorexia! Im really worried that I might not get it until really late on in life! All my friends have started and it seems strange to want it really but I haven't developed at all and I haven't really grown much in three years so I still luk the same as wen I was in primary and im almost yr 10 so i completely get wot ur saying but it will be okay :)

Im 14 and Ive never had a period thanks to the anorexia! Im really worried that I might not get it until really late on in life! All my friends have started and it seems strange to want it really but I haven't developed at all and I haven't really grown much in three years so I still luk the same as wen I was in primary and im almost yr 10 so i completely get wot ur saying but it will be okay :)

Hiyaaa Lizzie =)

I know it's scary when ur periods stop because it's a sign ur body isn't functioning right - but don't be discouraged because u may not have a period for a while but then u will again, it's just that ur body is learning how to function normal again =) I haven't had a period in like 3 years so I know there's damage to my body and if I ever want children it may not happen. But please don't give up!!! U've been really strong and can carry on because u have that in u  Just keep fighting against the voices telling u that there's no reason to carry on eating, they're lying, u have urwhole life ahead of u and the oppurtunity to have children in the future, don't let ana take all that away from u

Keep strong & fighting

From Laura xxx

Hey,

I just want to say...the same happened to me. I have suffered from ana for 4 years now, i am 18. I didnt have a period for a year, then they came back, i relapsed again and they came back about 6 months ago.

Please...please dont give up hope sweet, when u suffer from ED your metabolism gets confused, its just your body reacting, and storing the food that your feeding it. your hormones are everywere...they are just readjusting

You are normal! please dont think anything else, please keep eating well and you'll start to fell better...bit by bit... i no its hard, i am still not reliable with my diet but i am getting there

Please, if u ever need to talk or anything u no were i am

xoxoxox

Thank you so much, your all amazing.

Life is sooooooooooo bad at the moment for me but yeah its really hard. (Ive written about it on my other post- am i ready?) Thank you for being angels and listening, your the only people i can talk to x

Thanks sooo much Lizzie xx

tlk weneva u want i went through SUCH a hard time i dunno how i got through it!! stay strong and you will make it xxx