Family stuff

Families come in different shapes and sizes and these families work in different ways. Families can change, grow larger and get smaller.They can be great but within some families there are difficult and upsetting issues happening. In this section we have some information about different family issues and how you could get help.

You might also find it helpful to look at the National Youth Agency page on Growing up in a family.

Abuse

Young people can suffer abuse from adults or other young people. Abuse can be physical, emotional, sexual or neglect. No-body should treat you this way. Abuse can cause you feel very complicated and confusing feelings. There is help and support for you. You might just want to talk to someone about what is going on for you or you might want help in making it stop.

The NSPCC site for young people offers information and support http://www.there4me.com/

Childline are also there for support 24 hrs a day on 0800 1111, their site is http://www.childline.org.uk/

Caring for someone who is ill

Within some families there may be a parent, sibling or other relative that is very ill and needs support. They may be living in the family and need physical help to do things or emotional support through their illness. As a young person you may be caring for a parent or guardian. This can all be really tough and it's okay to need a break sometimes, do something for yourself and need some support.

The National Youth Agency page on Young Carers has useful information and contacts for further help.

Divorce

Divorce can be tough. It can be hard to understand. Your parents might have changed or be acting differently. They may be angry or upset a lot of the time. It is important to remember that this is not your fault. For support with divorce have a look at the links below.

This site offers Practical info for children, young people and parents going through a family break-up www.itsnotyourfault.org

Childline are also there for support 24 hrs a day on 0800 1111, their site is http://www.childline.org.uk/

Family dynamics

You may have different world views or opinions to your family. It is okay to be different although this may be really difficult at times. Try not to make it personal and understand that just because you don't agree with someone's view it doesn't mean you have to disagree with them as a whole person. You may want to learn more about your different views, these may be about religion or different political views. You can view our section on religion and spirituality here and politics here.

Fostering and Adoption

Being in the care system can cause you to feel a range of complicated feelings and you may have some questions that you would like answered. The following pages have information and further links.

Click here for the National Youth Agency page on adoption

Click here for the National Youth Agency page on foster care

Stepfamilies

You may gain a stepfamily as the result of a divorce. Having a stepfamily can be great but it can also bring difficult feelings to the surface. Family members may act differently now and you mght have different personalities around the home to get used to. You might also have gained new brothers and sisters. If you need help and support as a result of gaining a stepfamily you can contact the link below or call Childline on 0800 1111

http://www.childline.org.uk/Stepfamilies.asp