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The Challenge of Christmas

creideasspiorad

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Hey all who are reading this,

I think it is fair to say that Christmas is hard for everyone but especially hard for ourselves and pressure from ourselves and others around us .
So...I thought it would be good to set a challenge for myself. It is simple but huge as well and a challenge that I am going to struggle to do but will be so worth it at the end.


Challenge: To do something this christmas that goes against the ED thoughts and voices.

I cannot do this on our my own and I will need some support...

I will not let this ED ruin my christmas.







CS

xxxx

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Posted on December 12, 2012 at 1:49 PM
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SophiaGrace

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

Hi,



I was thinking the exact same thing this morning!



I am FED UP and I want to enjoy my Christmas.



What challenge will you set yourself? I think I know what mine will be....



xoxo

Posted on December 12, 2012 at 5:47 PM

rayofsunshine

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

Hey

I've really been struggling with Christmas these last couple of years. I think I've been over compensating the other way, getting really ill , and it just never ends well.


This year I'm really worried about how it's going to go, I want to be normal but in my head all I can concentrate on is eating disordered thoughts ,the thoughts just never end.

Posted on December 13, 2012 at 9:44 PM

creideasspiorad

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

Hi Sophia,

I will have to say that mine will be to conquer my fears of certain foods



CS

xxx

Posted on December 14, 2012 at 12:30 PM

creideasspiorad

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

Hi Rayof sunshine,



It is also hard in that instance....how about eating regularly...for example. I think it is a given that the thought of we might over indulge is an issue...the last couple of christmas's I have vowed to eat what I want...and praise myself for it. In my family we eat the christmas meal and then do presents afterwards when we have cleared up....I found this helpful and a distraction. People around you will be happy that you are with them to celebrate. Do not put pressure on yourself....take things small steps at a time.



It is hard to keep the thoughts at bay...I also used a train analogy...it meant that I thought something but instead of holding onto it....such as I should not of had that or I shouldnt have done that...I acknowledged the thought but let it pass through...as a train moves along the track.... I do not create any stations for the train to stop at either I used to think ok so that thought has entered my head...its ok to have that thought hello thought...I will deal with you later....goodbye...sometimes I make the train go fast so I dont even allow my acknowledgement to be fully said.... dont hold on to a shouldn't, couldn't, wouldn't or anything similar those words are the Eating Disorders thoughts....have something positive on you that you can read if you cannot let thoughts go. Its difficult but you have realised that....what are you going to do about it? let the ED win and have another bad christmas or fight the ED and tell it to get lost...



I know you can do this and have a good christmas. Stay safe and talk to us....we can help pull you through.....



CS

xxx

Posted on December 14, 2012 at 4:00 PM

nicolala

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

Hi

what a good idea, to set a challenge.
wouldn't it be nice if the new year we could all have completed a challenge. i know i seriously lack a sense of achievement, i am sure i am not alone there.
very positive CS...here's hoping noone on here has christmas completely ruined by Ed.

nicolala

Posted on December 14, 2012 at 5:05 PM

rayofsunshine

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

Hey CS



Thanks for the reply, certainly an interesting way of trying to deal with it all. I'll have to have a think about the best way to approach Christmas without it becoming too much. I think it's the ED thoughts that get me the most, maybe somethign along the distraction route would work

Posted on December 14, 2012 at 8:24 PM

countyboy

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

Hi all



This is my first post so hello to everyone.

I am worried about christmas day, with the pressure of the extended family visiting for lunch.



I have my first assessment this week at my local counciling unit and I am hoping that this will help in the long term, but tonight I feel really down about things.



Good luck to everyone in this month



CB



x

Posted on December 14, 2012 at 9:41 PM

bunnylove

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

Hello Cs I am glad I chanced to see your post. I was wanting to celebrate a small success of mine!

Already I attended a little party for the people I volunteer with. Due to classes still on I had to miss a couple but that was a big worry for me. I struggle to do anything off my schedule and here was something extra and party food. How would I cope?. Actually I rose a little earlier to do the housework, chose something fancy to wear and went and just joined in everything. I focused on socuialising. Later at home I caught up with usual tasks and enjoyed my swim as normal. I thiunk fears do get magnified in my head!

I have a meal out to attend on Monday and would like to be eble to relax and enjoy it.

A big challenge I would love to achieve is to invite one of my extended family groups to come to my house , when it suits them ,not necessarily me, break my routine for that purpose and provide a meal. I dont see enough of them.

I hope everyone enjoys conquering their challenge and learns they can do so again and again!

Lots of love

Bunnylove xxxxxxxxx

Posted on December 16, 2012 at 1:55 PM

creideasspiorad

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

hi,

I hope everyones Christmas has been bearable and you have all been spoilt rotten because we deserve the good things in life. Sorry that I have not been on for a while...I have had laptop problems but yesterday I went and bought a new one....hasten to add this computer I am writing this on is not that laptop. lol.

Well done for your own personal challenges.... you have survived Christmas smiling

How is everyone?

CS
xxx

p.s happy new year

Posted on January 03, 2013 at 3:55 PM

nicolala

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

Hi all

happy new year!

i got through christmas by sticking to my food plan and not letting it turn into a big binge/purge nightmare of usual so i am pleased i managed that and am moving into the new year hoping this year i finally pluck up the courage to engage in therapy and truly beat my ed.


how are you all? setting new resolutions/challenges for the new year?



nicolala

Posted on January 05, 2013 at 10:19 AM

bunnylove

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

Hi everyone Im not sure if my post went or not so I will check later. I did achieve my goal although all did not go smoothly. My guests forgot to arrive. However I did recover by rearranging a date, refrigerating the food and going onto some soothing activities that evening. They were very apologetic!
Love
Bunnylove xxxxxxxxx

Posted on January 05, 2013 at 8:20 PM

creideasspiorad

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

sounds like an awesome new year resolution nicolaa keep that going strong



Bunnylove what a nightmare but well done for organising another date



Hope you are all ok.



CS

xxx

Posted on January 09, 2013 at 4:31 PM

bunnylove

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re: The Challenge of Christmas

Cs I was upset at the time but pleased that they came and we had a lovely evening. I also took a chance, calling unexpectedly just because there was an opportunity, on another family member who I struggle to see. I was warmly received and glad to have done it. Now the challenge is to get back to some sort of routine

I have a rarer event, a visitor for the weekend .I really want to make my visitor welcome so I will concentrate on that!

Love

bunnylove xxxx

Posted on January 10, 2013 at 3:14 PM
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