Hi Steve,



I agree with hereatlast, it seems your wife if lucky to have a husband who is trying to do the right thing. But equally, it might be a really tough thing to do.



If your wife indeed does have a problem, she's probably terrified. Before I "came out" about my ED, and even now that people think i'm doing well at recovery, I was terrified that someone might raise the subject, sometimes to the point where I'd literally get up and run away if i felt the subject might come up even when talking aobut something totally different. The fear of losing control can be massive.


But that doesn't mean you should give up. I guess the best you can do it keep on doing what you're doing. Being open, finding out the facts and sources of support and letting her know you're there for her when she is ready to take the first step. And not forgetting who she is and that who it was you fell in love with, becuase that's what counts, the ED is just like a nasty coat where the zip's got stuck and it's a struggle to be free of it. It's not her, but it's trapped her in and she needs help to get out.



Good luck and take care of yourself too.