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Needing some support - please read :)

maze03

maze03
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Joined: Jan 2012

Hello Everyone



I'm new to the young people's forum and firstly just wanted to say hello. I'm writing really in search of some positivity and inspiration to go forward into recovery. I'm currently living at home and have had previous inpatient admissions. I suppose the downfall has always been coming home and back into an environment whereby it is incredibly difficult to try and get a grip on things. I do have a community team but as you all know I'm sure, the time spent at home and by ourselves outweighs the very little time that we spend with therapists and doctors. It's in this time where we are put into a position to challenge ourselves and to try our best to fight. I really want to believe and to have hope that recovery can be done, I'm just really struggling to grasp the motivation and to really be able to trust myself. Taking charge of a meal plan and working towards making sure I do what's right is really tough and I really want to be able to stay at home and to do this. I really don't want to be put into a situation whereby I have to go into inpatient again. Is there anybody out there that has been in or is in the same place? Can this be done at home? Is it possible to make changes? I also find it hard because of course being either an inpatient or seeking support from services, you're naturally going to be around others that are really unwell or that are struggling badly themselves and I want nothing more than to be a part of those that CAN and those that DO get well. I want to hear of stories where people are and wanting to get better, however hard that may be I know and understand but it can really get me down being and feeling so isolated from positive outcomes. There to me doesn't seem to be enough pro-recovery and I wish there was, which is why I turn to these boards because I want to seek reassurance and hope in that, yes it's hard but it can be beaten. Any advice, stories, tips are welcome and I will be truly grateful. What do others do to get through a difficult meal, have an urge to exercise, have negative thoughts? How do you get through it and stay strong? I hope you can help me, thank-you

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Posted on February 24, 2012 at 10:08 PM
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CityPosters800

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re: Needing some support - please read :)

Hello!



First off, I just wanted to say that your post really inspired me personally because you sound so positive and you want to get better and be around more positive people and situations which is just incredible in itself and you should be really proud to get to that point because it's really tough!



I've never been in-patient before so I can't really help you with that, but I got really close to being sectioned before I went into recovery so I can share my story if it helps and you want to hear it? - i wont get into it now just in case it's useless to you but I'm more than happy to talk about it if you want.



At the moment I'm currently going through a really difficult stage as lots of stuff seems to be going wrong in my life at home and its making me feel the urge to go back to my old habits. The difficult part is separating yourself from everything else and just focusing on getting better - harder than it sounds I know.



When I'm having a rough day, or right now where it's been a rough couple of months, I tend to become very reclusive and private - something I know from talking to other eating disorder sufferers is normal (quick snippet of advice - personally, i beat myself up for every symptom of my eating disorder, its either a failure or abnormal - so talking to someone whoever it may be and realising that some of these things are common and 'normal' in these problems can really help) but my main advice is try not to shut yourself off. Socialise for at least twenty minutes each day outside of meal times, whether you just sit and watch t.v and don't talk for that time or have a full blown conversation, just try to show your face even when you're having a rough day. For me this made meal times easier as that wasn't the only time I spent with my family so i wasn't immediately bombarded with questions or stares when i sat down at the table.



A difficult meal can be tricky - personally i struggle a lot with things - but here for me i found it helped when i had a say in what was on my plate. You can eat a healthy amount and feel in control as well as making yourself the least uncomfortable possible.



I try and push negative thoughts out with things i know make me laugh or distract me- a favourite comedy show or film or doing something constructive - reorganising a photo album, writing a song or a story, drawing, painting, coming on here and talk to someone, for me it really helped to do something where i had something to show for my time as well as something that required a lot of my attention.



But sometimes its okay to cry and just have a bit of a bad day, just don't bottle everything up because that's what i did for a long time and I just ended up feeling like i was drowning!



I really hoped any of this helped! Sorry it's so long and so much of it is just me rambling!



Hope you're okay,



Take care and remember you're beautiful...

Posted on February 27, 2012 at 12:38 AM

maze03

maze03
Total Posts: 10
Joined: Jan 2012

re: Needing some support - please read :)

Hello!

Thank-you so much for your kind response, I can't tell you how grateful I am that you've taken the time to answer me. Just reading through and knowing that others are going through similar situations really does prove to be reassuring and somewhat comforting in knowing that I'm not alone in feeling this way. Please don't be sorry for what you've written, it's not rambling at all and want you to know that I'll always be more than happy to sit and read whatever you write about because I find it really useful to listen to others and their experiences. I would love to hear your story, as long as you feel okay to write about it? I'm currently in the position of having to make changes or else it'll be an inpatient admission, or section; which you've said you have also experienced. How did you go about turning things around? Is it just a case of having to be really strong and telling yourself you have to do it? I feel really stuck at the moment with trying to grasp the courage to fight back, the fear is just so intense. I think I just find it really difficult in trying to trust myself again and to gain back control and confidence in making sure I have the correct meal plan etc: in place. I'm literally at a loose end with it all, there's no structure, it's just a complete muddle and I don't know where to start! I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time at the moment and really hope that you can find the support that will enable you to get through it. You're more than welcome to write to me about it, I'd never be one to judge or critise and if I knew it was helping someone to feel better by writing about their worries, then that in turn will help me because I like to be there to support others just as much as they do me. I can really relate to the feelings of wanting to just hide away from everything and know all to well that temptation to just push the problems aside in the hope that they'll somehow disappear. I wish I could take them all away from you because they really are horrible but as I said, please know that you can write them down if it helps. So, are you living at home? Are you studying? Again, I can really understand that difficulty in trying to seperate yourself and focusing on getting better. It has to be one of the hardest things, trying to hold onto that motivation and determination to get through it. I still try to hold onto the very little strength it feels I have to think that recovery is and will be worth it and I feel it really helps to hear the positives of others and their experiences because it gives me hope that it really is possible to find a way out of this dark place. Do you have a community team, dietician or therapist or anything?

Thank-you again, your post has made my day.

I hope you're okay too, keep going and take care x

Posted on February 27, 2012 at 1:27 PM

bethan

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re: Needing some support - please read :)

hi

i have also not been an in patient either. so i cant really help i have had anorexia for 6 months now and it get worse quite quickly. your stories are so inspiring and its nice to talk to possative people as i can have a negative out look on life.

i have people in my family talking about meal plans which to be honest scare me compleatly, then i have the other side of it where parts of family that now dont comment.

i also try to push away the negative thoughts it sounds really lame but when my head is getting full up of negatives and worry i just take some time out and go have a relxing bath which seems to allow my brain to switch off for about 10 minutes or so, or i watch a movie with friends. .

i hope i have been of some help ang i hope you continue on your possitive progress



x xx

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