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bethanyjl

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re: Putting on too much weight! Feeling low

you're okay trust me. the doctors shouldn't be telling you that as it's bad for your recovery. we all put on weight at different speeds depending on our individual bodies and there is nothing wrong with that. have you spoke to the doctors or your parents about their comments? i know it's hard to see when you are gaining weight but you need to tell yourself that it is the right thing. it is what will make you healthy and happy. it is ED who is telling you the bad things so they aren't true. whenever you here ED speak you need to tell it, "i'm not listening, you're wrong". you will get used to the changes of your body and will learn to love it. try buying some nice pretty clothes to treat your body and so you get used to seeing your body this way.
stay strong. love is louder than the pressure to be perfect. bethany

Posted on June 13, 2012 at 2:06 PM

re: Headaches

hi, firstly well done for asking for help. i think that you need to speak to someone you're close to or your GP about how you feel and about your headaches. no one will judge you, they will be thankful that you've came to them. the stress of food and the stress of friends will make the headaches worse. do you think getting further help such as therapy will help you because of how much ED still controls you?



stay strong. love is louder than the pressure to be perfect. bethany

Posted on June 13, 2012 at 2:01 PM

re: Will I ever get better and stay better?

i know it's hard but you can fight it. every time you eat, tell yourself "i need this food to fuel my body to keep going" because it's true. you do need that food. without that food you can't recover and be happy and healthy and that's your aim right? people won't get fed up of you. if you need to talk to someone then talk to someone. at the end of the day they just want to see you healthy and will do anything they can to make that happen. they love you and won't leave you no matter how long it takes. it's a journey but you will be stronger at the end of it.



stay strong. love is louder than the pressure to be perfect. bethany

Posted on June 13, 2012 at 1:54 PM

re: exams/study

it will take time. you won't just focus right away, you have to practice to train your thoughts away from ED. it's annoying when it keeps popping up but if you keep fighting it and keep fighting it then itwill get weaker and you will focus more.



i'm taking A levels. yuk.



stay strong. love is louder than the pressure to be perfect. bethany

Posted on June 13, 2012 at 1:51 PM

re: Uh-oh

as long as the book is helping you in a good way then that's great.

all i can advise is to keep doing what you have been doing with your GP and keep pushing. what my mom find helped was she found out the place my GP were referring me to and rang the place itself over and over to push it forward.

try the letter to your partner if you can. it really will help. it may seem daunting and scary to do but it will be the right thing to do and you will see that afterwards.

make a list of things you want to do, look at it everyday and you will see that you can achieve them and will build up that motivation and excitement.

i'm looking after myself just so happy that i can now help others


stay strong. love is louder than the pressure to be perfect. bethany

Posted on June 13, 2012 at 1:49 PM

re: Just when i thought i could handle things!

hi, well done on how far you have. we will all have our down days and days when we struggle but it doesn't mean we are going backwards. you just need to get over that struggle day and tell yourself tomorrow is going to be better. you need to be open about everything you feel with your psychiatrist and try and pin point what makes you feel so bad. if ED is speaking to you telling you negative things then disobey it. you are stronger than it and stronger than this illness. look to all of your dreams and wishes and want you want in the future. aim for them. when you feel low, go and put some relaxing music on, shut your eyes and take deep breathes. it really helps.

stay strong. love is louder than the pressure to be perfect. bethany x

Posted on June 07, 2012 at 2:29 PM

re: Will I ever get better and stay better?

hi, you can recover! you need to try and change the perception that you have of your body. tell yourself everyday you are beautiful because you are. we are all different and that is what makes us so beautiful. you need to speak to your parents. you want to get better so try and make the first move to getting better. speak to your parents. if its easier then right them a letter. try and seperate ED's thoughts from yours. if you need more help then ask for it. if your doctors turn you away then be persistent. try and try. next time you go to purge, stop and tell yourself "no this isn't healthy, i want help and happiness, this is what ED wants, not me, and i want to beat ED" then take deep breathes and walk away. i know you can be strong!

stay strong. love is louder than the pressure to be perfect. bethany x

Posted on June 07, 2012 at 2:26 PM

re: Uh-oh

hi, firstly if the book is making you think those thoughts then throw it away. it may be difficult but you can do it. the thoughts you have aren't the thoughts that others have of you. ED is making you feel that way and you need to try and seperate your thoughts from ED's thoughts. try and get onto the place where you are going to have CBT. my mom rang and rang to get them to push it forward. you need to keep persistent at it. speak to your partner but if you cant do it face to face then right them a letter. i find it easier that way as its difficult to speak face to face. i know you can do it. look forward at all of your dreams and wishes for a future of health and happiness and use that as an incentive to get better. you can do it!

stay strong. love is louder than the pressure to be perfect. bethany x

Posted on June 07, 2012 at 2:21 PM

re: exams/study

Hi, i know exactly how you feel but you can do it.

first of all try and keep ringing the eating disorder service as much as you can to try and push forward your appointment. my mom did this until she got what i needed which was the help as soon as. what i do to take my mind off food to concentrate is schedule a certain period of time in my day just to revise so i wake up that morning knowing that from 10:30-12:30 i will revise so my mind is looking forward towards that time and focused only on revision. try some calming techniques before you revise to get yourself relaxed and your mind taken away from food. try listening to some relaxation songs and do some deep breaths. you can do it.

stay strong. love is louder than the pressure to be . bethany x

Posted on June 07, 2012 at 2:13 PM

re: Hey guys!

hi! well done on how far you have come and well don for getting help! it is a big step and i know you can do it! you're beautiful and pull out the strength thats inside you! keep going! i am always here whenever you want to talk!

stay strong and remember that love is louder than the pressure to be perfect

Posted on April 17, 2012 at 10:27 AM

re: Getting rid of the illness

well done on how far you have came! ive learned that this illness is not something that you can just get rid of. you have just got to keep working at it everyday until you find the peace and happiness and it is a long road. it takes time. i know you dont want to hear that as i hate it too but you can do it and can keep going! i know you can! dont give up. it might be a long road but think of all of the things you can achieve!

stay strong and remember that love is louder than the pressure to be perfect

Posted on April 17, 2012 at 10:25 AM

re: from restriction to binging, why is all or nothing?

hi, well done for coming this far! you may not feel that you are doing well but you are. but it is important that you tell someone how you feel. if your therapist isnt working for you, tell someone and they can change the therapist or your current therapist can alter things so she can help you. its hard but you can do it. ive had to have multiple therapists to get my right one and thats not a bad thing. tell your parents, friend, teacher, whoever you trust. you can do it i know you can!

stay strong and remember that love is louder than the pressure to be perfect

Posted on April 17, 2012 at 10:23 AM

re: Anorexia and bullemia :(

don't feel guilty. it's not your fault. you have made a huge step by admitting it and wanting to get help. the next thing you need to do is tell someone, whether its a member of your family, a friend, a teacher. it is easier for me to write letters rather than talk face to face so you could try that. you want to tackle this now while you can see that you are going along this path. i know you can beat this!

stay strong and remember that love is louder than the pressure to be perfect

Posted on April 17, 2012 at 10:19 AM

re: Please i need some support!

Hi Emma,
Well done for opening up to your boyfriend, that is huge a huge step and a brilliant one. But the next step is to now move forward with that which I know you can do. I am currently about to start more treatment which is my fifth try at a new one, and I hope it helps me. Yep, my fifth one. Four counselors haven't been right for me but I haven't given up. You just have to find the right treatment for you. It may of not been the right treatment for you last time but you just have to stay determined as I know you can beat this. If you don't want to go alone, ask your boyfriend to go to the doctors with you. Or you can both look on the internet for different treatment options. Think of all of the things that you will be able to do when you beat this and use that to keep urging you forward. I know you can. Like Harriet said, think of it as one step at a time or one appointment at a time. Thank you for that Harriet as I've never thought of it like that before but from now on I am going to as it seems like a great way of thinking about things. I know you can beat this Emma. Just make the next step and smile as you do!
Stay strong and remember that love is louder than the pressure to be perfect

Posted on February 23, 2012 at 12:16 PM

re: I'm scared for Friday

Hi Harriet,

Thank you for replying.

It went okay. It was just an assessment so she asked me questions about it all like about my eating, about my moods, how I feel etc. The lady is a lovely person. I went in without my mom as I find it difficult when my moms there as there are things I don't want to say in front of her and she just sits there and cries so it doesn't help. The lady said that I should have an appointment and start within a few weeks which is what I am now really petrified about because this does mean change for me. I left afterwards and then was is a panic all day about what I eat and things such as * and exercise. I've tried to calm down since then and I have a bit but I am still struggling. I know that the next step is a good one but I really am scared. I don't want to give somebody else the control over me.

Stay strong and remember that love is louder than the pressure to be perfect

Posted on February 23, 2012 at 12:09 PM

re: Binge - Restrict cycle.. I don't know what to do!

Hi Krissy,
First of all well done for realising that things are starting to get bad again and well done for admitting it as that is the first step to recovery again. It is a huge step but IS the right one. I'm so proud that you got help before so don't let nothing stop you from doing the same now. The next step is telling someone as I know you can beat this! Whether it's speaking to your parents, a friend, other relatives or a teacher, you need to tell someone. I know you can. I find it easier to tell people when I need help by writing it to my parents whether in a letter or a text as it is then easier to say it rather than face to face. Just think of all of the things you will be able to do when you beat this! So make that next step and get help. I know you can!
Stay strong and remember that love is louder than the pressure to be perfect

Posted on February 23, 2012 at 12:05 PM

re: being ignored says it all.

Hey, no one wants to feel alone and I'm sure people aren't ignoring you on purpose. We are all here for you and I am here for you whenever you need to chat. Help is the one thing we all need and it is a good thing to get it! Don't feel alone, we are all here for you!
Stay strong and remember that love is louder than the pressure to be perfect

Posted on February 23, 2012 at 12:01 PM

re: worries in life are causing me to relapse big time, feel so alone..

Wow that's awesome having the same names! It's what I'm here for so don't ever hesitate to talk! And trust me it does help to write the letter as you can get more feelings into it and you don't hold things back like when you might stop saying something you want to say and don't have to fight with someone trying to talk over you. I know you can beat this just keep looking to the future and how great things can be! Thank you for being there for me too! Keep me posted on how things are!

Stay strong and remember that love is louder than the pressure to be perfect

Posted on February 17, 2012 at 7:25 AM

re: worries in life are causing me to relapse big time, feel so alone..

Well done for admitting that you have an eating disorder to start with and feel you are getting worse. That's a huge accomplishment. It must've been really hard emotionally lately. But I'm sure your parents wouldn't be upset or angry if you confess your problems to them as I know that the one thing that they would want is for you to get better. That's the most important thing for them I know it is. I know that as you've said that you've heard people say "things will get better" and don't believe it, but trust me it is the truth. Things will get better! You just need to push and push and push to make it better! its a struggle but will be worth it in the end. I know you can do it! Try and go to the doctors and speak to your parents. If you find that to difficult then write them a letter as that's what I find is the easiest way to communicate with my parents. I know you can do it! You've just got to look for the future and at everything that you will be able to achieve when you are better! You are beautiful Being the media's view of 'perfect' isn't perfect! What's perfect is being happy and healthy
Stay strong and remember that love is louder than the pressure to be perfect

Posted on February 15, 2012 at 10:27 AM

re: please...i need help,

The first thing I can say is well done for realising and admitting to yourself that you have an eating disorder. That is a huge and brave step and accomplishment in itself. But now the next step is to get help.It's scary but it will change your life for the better. Trust me. Throw away your scales. They do not help, they fixate your mind on your weight which is unhealthy. What's important is being healthy for your own body. Get help now as you don't want this to get worse. If you trust your sister try and get her to help you get help if you know what I mean. Book a doctors appointment and take he along. Get her to speak to your parents for you. I find it easier to write letters to my parents rather than talk face to face. But the one thing you must do is get help. I know you can do it. This doesn't have to control your life if you don't let it. You're beautiful and can beat this!

Stay strong and remember that love is louder than the pressure to be perfect

Posted on February 15, 2012 at 10:16 AM
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