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re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Hi everyone. Thanks again for your lovely words of support. So had my assessment . Sat for an hour telling her about my issues and what sort of help I think I need only to be told all we have to offer is group therapy. Six weekly sessions on general tips to help with EDs. I've been in and out of therapy for 18 years so I can't see these groups being able to tell me anything I haven't tried before. Feel thoroughly gutted. Asked about one-to-one therapy to be told, there's no money for that you basically have to be commited to get that sort of help. What have I got to do to get the help I need!! Sorry to rant just really fed up with 6 weeks of this and 6 weeks of that. Do they really believe that 20 years of ED can be fixed in 6 weeks! Agreed to join the group as it was that or nothing. Maybe I'm being too negative, it might be helpful and at least I'll meet some new people. Just hoped they were gonna be able to do more. Sorry to be so negative everyone just feeling lost and angry at the moment. Hope you are all doing ok. Take care xxx Posted on March 14, 2012 at 3:39 PM
re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Hi Everyone. Thank you all for your kind words. Bunnylove, there's no need for an apology. I've been reading all your posts I just didn't feel like talking. I knew though that you would all be here for me when I did. It's really nice to know that this sort of support is here for me and I thank you all. I guess you're right about looking at the positives. I was hoping the hypno would work on my eating and didn't really think about anything else. But although my eating has got worse I feel I'm coping better in other ways. My boyfriend has noticed that my mood and the way I cope with stressful situations has improved dramatically. I guess I just thought my eating would improve with it, I keep forgetting that it's not going to be a quick fix. I'm hoping that my assessment appointment with the ED service will be a start of something new. I don't know what sort of support they can offer. Let's hope they can help. Hope you are all as well as can be. Thinking of you all. Take care xxx Posted on March 10, 2012 at 7:44 PM
re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Hi everyone. Haven't been on here for a while but I've been reading your posts still. Thanks Tulip for reaching out. I have been really struggling these past couple of weeks. I've had three hypnotherapy sessions to help but I'm not sure if they're going to help. I do feel better in myself and more at peace. I'm also handling things better than I ever have, but my eating is getting worse.It's really demorolising. I was hoping hypno was going to really work on my eating. I've managed to get my doctor to refer me to a new eating disorder service set up in my area and I've got an assessment appointment next week. I really hope they can help as I'm coming to the end of my tether. My partner and I are going on holiday in September so I really want to get my head sorted out before then. Sorry to moan, just don't know what to do anymore. Posted on March 08, 2012 at 4:30 PM
re: re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Dear Tulip- I know exactly how you feel. My eating is completely out of control and has been for some time. There are days when all I can do is cry about it. Believe me when I say you deserve help and support just like the rest of us. Don't compare yourself to others. Your issues are important to you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It's sad that we feel we have to justify asking for help, but never feel like you are alone. You are not! Try and be a bit kinder to yourself ( I know it's easier said than done). Why are we so good at taking care of others but when it comes to ourselves we think we don't deserve to be looked after? We are all worthy human beings and we all deserved to be loved and supported. Take care of yourself xxx Posted on February 29, 2012 at 6:01 PM
re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Dear Flo- I hope you're mum is doing ok. Reading your post I couldn't help but identify with what you said about doing everything perfect. For so many years I have been a perfectionist However my counsellor helped me see that having that attitude was making me miss out on so many possibilities. So I have tried to adopt a less severe approach now. I try to accept that I may fail at something but at least I've tried. I'll be honest and say it doesn't always work but I have had fun just trying things and trying not to care if I get it wrong and make a fool of myself. For example I suffer with a really bad back and have done for over 20 years. I noticed a pilates class for people with back pain last summer and thought about trying it. I am the most un-coordinated person I know and am very unfit so it was really daunting to try it. But I told myself I was just gonna give it a go and not beat myself up if I couldn't do it. The first lesson I went to I was all over the place and nearly in tears but I persevered. Eight months on I am still going and I love it. I actually look forward to going and am the longest attending pupil there. I just wanted to say it's ok to fail sometimes and you shouldn't beat yourself up if you do. We're all human afterall. Take care xxx Posted on February 23, 2012 at 5:49 PM
re: re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Dear Crossroads. I understand your fears all too well. People generally understand when you say you are anorexic or bullimic but binge-eating doesn't really get as much press. I know what you mean when you say you are afraid that people will think you're just greedy. As I've said before though it sometimes has little to do with food and more about how we use food to cope with other issues. You are not greedy or useless you have a real illness and should never feel ashamed. Your GP should take your concerns seriously and it's been my experience that they are usually very understanding. The problem is getting the actual help we need. I had to wait 6 months for an appointment with a counsellor and then she could only offer me a maximum of 6 appointments which wasn't much use to be honest. I did however look online and found a womens drop-in centre . They offer low cost counselling ( can be as little as Â£5 an hour depending on your income) and can offer longer term help then the NHS. There is a 2 month waiting list but they can offer up to 24 sessions once I start which is fantastic compared to what the NHS can do. So maybe it would be worthwhile for you to do a bit of surfing and find out what help there is in your area. You might be pleasantly surprised. I hope your appointment with your GP goes well. Try to stay strong and take care xxx Posted on February 21, 2012 at 4:22 PM
re: re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Bunnylove- Thanks for your suggestions. My counsellor did recommend a womens drop-in centre near me. They do low cost counselling but there is a 2 month waiting list, so I've put my name down for that. . I have enrolled on an anger management course which I'm hoping will help. I have checked out my local library but there's not much there that I'm interested in. I'd love to go to a self help group for people with EDs but there isn't one near me. I'll keep looking though. Thanks for your kind words and suggestions. Take care xxx Posted on February 20, 2012 at 5:21 PM
re: re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Dear Tulip. I understand your fears and anxieties about seeing the mental health nurse. It is always nervewracking when you go to someone for help and don't know what to expect. I am sure she/he will do their best to put you at ease, that's certainly been my experience. They're used to dealing with people who find it hard to ask for help. Just try to remember there is no pressure for you to talk about things you're not ready to discuss but you'll probably find it quite cathartic just having someone to talk too. I hope it goes well for you. Take care. Posted on February 20, 2012 at 5:05 PM
re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Dear findingmyvoice. I'm so glad you found this site and I hope you will get the support you need and deserve. I know how it feels to feel ashamed and unable to talk to anyone. Is there one person in your life you know would support you? Maybe just telling one person would make you feel like a weight had been lifted off your shoulders. Sometimes talking to someone like your GP would help. Talking to a non-family member is easier as they wont have any biases. Sorry if I'm stating the obviuos. Your GP won't judge you or criticise you and should be able to offer you some help. The first and sometimes the most scariest step is acknowledging that you have a problem and asking for help. Trust me though it's worth it. I do hope you find the help you need. Never be ashamed you have a genuine illness and deserve support. Take care xxx Posted on February 20, 2012 at 4:49 PM
re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Bunnylove- Your words are so kind and encouraging and I thank you for that. I have joined * and am friends with a couple of girls I used to go to school with but I don't talk to them much. The problem I have is that my boyfriend is pretty much the only positive person I have in my life. My relationship with my family is very tense and the cause of most of my problems. My Mum and Nan were the ones I was closest too but they both passed away within the last 18 months. I'm not coping very well with that but have joined a bereavement support group. The only problem is that most of the people in the group are all elderly. No offense to the elderly but I'm only 34 so haven't really made any friends there even though they are all really sweet. I was bullied at school so didn't have many close friends. During the years I was able to work my moods were so erratic it put people off. So making friends has never been easy for me. Sorry if I sound like I'm moaning. I'm trying to make my days have more structure but as you probably know it's easier said than done. I'm trying to make a social group for myself but it's difficult. When people find out I'm not working for health reasons they look at me and can't see a physical problem and it confuses them. My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 years and he is the one constant good thing in my life. Maybe I just need to be kinder to myself. I have made small steps in the right direction it just still feels like it's all too much sometimes. Thank you for your support, it means a lot. Take care xxx Posted on February 17, 2012 at 8:11 PM
re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Bunnylove- Thank you for your kind words. I have started doing some voluntary work. I do one morning a week at a local charity shop. I am really enjoying it. The problem is I am so exhausted all the time I can't commit to more than one morning a week. I have found a special back care pilates class one morning a week (I've always suffered with back pain) and am really enjoying that too. I'm also starting day hospital but they can only offer me 90 minutes one morning a week. So I have filled 3 mornings a week. The problem is though I am still alone for such long periods. I know that boredom and lonliness are my triggers but I don't seem to be able to do much more than I am already. I've tried all sorts of distractions but nothing seems to work. As I said before I am trying hypnotherapy soon and I hope that this will help. I tried it a few years ago and it didn't work but I was in a very different place back then. I wasn't ready to forgive people or move on from the past. Now things are different. I've grown up and excepted a lot of things that happened and desperately want to move on. I wish people who didn't suffer with the problems we have realised that food is not the main issue. It is what we use to deal with deeper problems. I want to say that food is almost incidental to the problem but I don't want to offend others, I can only say that in my case food is just the instrument I use to cope with the deeper rooted problems I have. I know that I need to face and deal with these issues before I can finally move on from my food issues. It's wonderful to hear from others. Before I came on this website I truly believed that no-one could possibly understand what I've been through and still go through every day. It's such a relief to know that there are others out there who know what it's like. For the first time in my life I feel like I'm not the only one. Thank you. Posted on February 17, 2012 at 11:18 AM
re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much. Hi. I'm brand new to this sort of website but I felt I needed to see that there are other people out there who know what I'm going through. I started suffering with anorexia when I was 12, I left home when I was 18 and it turned to bulimia. Now I'm 34 and for the past five years I've just turned to binge-eating. Food rules my life. I haven't worked for 9 years because of my problems so am alone all day. My biggest problem is boredom and loneliness. I can't help bingeing. I say "That's it tomorrow I'll stop and everything will be ok". But it never is. I've tried every kind of therapy over the years. Whilst they have all helped in a small way nothing has had a life-changing impact. I'm even starting hypnotherapy next week to try and get back into healthy eating. My boyfirend is amazing and so supportive but he can never fully understand what it's like. Having read some of your posts it was like reading about myself and brought tears to my eyes. I never thought anybody else would understand what it's like to be so lost and out of control. Lets hope we all find the support we need xxx Posted on February 16, 2012 at 12:32 PM

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re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Hi everyone. Thanks again for your lovely words of support.

So had my assessment . Sat for an hour telling her about my issues and what sort of help I think I need only to be told all we have to offer is group therapy. Six weekly sessions on general tips to help with EDs. I've been in and out of therapy for 18 years so I can't see these groups being able to tell me anything I haven't tried before.

Feel thoroughly gutted. Asked about one-to-one therapy to be told, there's no money for that you basically have to be commited to get that sort of help. What have I got to do to get the help I need!!

Sorry to rant just really fed up with 6 weeks of this and 6 weeks of that. Do they really believe that 20 years of ED can be fixed in 6 weeks! Agreed to join the group as it was that or nothing. Maybe I'm being too negative, it might be helpful and at least I'll meet some new people. Just hoped they were gonna be able to do more.

Sorry to be so negative everyone just feeling lost and angry at the moment.

Hope you are all doing ok. Take care xxx

Posted on March 14, 2012 at 3:39 PM

re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Hi Everyone. Thank you all for your kind words. Bunnylove, there's no need for an apology. I've been reading all your posts I just didn't feel like talking. I knew though that you would all be here for me when I did. It's really nice to know that this sort of support is here for me and I thank you all.

I guess you're right about looking at the positives. I was hoping the hypno would work on my eating and didn't really think about anything else. But although my eating has got worse I feel I'm coping better in other ways. My boyfriend has noticed that my mood and the way I cope with stressful situations has improved dramatically. I guess I just thought my eating would improve with it, I keep forgetting that it's not going to be a quick fix.

I'm hoping that my assessment appointment with the ED service will be a start of something new. I don't know what sort of support they can offer. Let's hope they can help.

Hope you are all as well as can be. Thinking of you all.

Take care xxx

Posted on March 10, 2012 at 7:44 PM

re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Hi everyone. Haven't been on here for a while but I've been reading your posts still. Thanks Tulip for reaching out. I have been really struggling these past couple of weeks. I've had three hypnotherapy sessions to help but I'm not sure if they're going to help. I do feel better in myself and more at peace. I'm also handling things better than I ever have, but my eating is getting worse.It's really demorolising. I was hoping hypno was going to really work on my eating.

I've managed to get my doctor to refer me to a new eating disorder service set up in my area and I've got an assessment appointment next week. I really hope they can help as I'm coming to the end of my tether. My partner and I are going on holiday in September so I really want to get my head sorted out before then.

Sorry to moan, just don't know what to do anymore.

Posted on March 08, 2012 at 4:30 PM

re: re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Dear Tulip- I know exactly how you feel. My eating is completely out of control and has been for some time. There are days when all I can do is cry about it. Believe me when I say you deserve help and support just like the rest of us. Don't compare yourself to others. Your issues are important to you and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. It's sad that we feel we have to justify asking for help, but never feel like you are alone. You are not! Try and be a bit kinder to yourself ( I know it's easier said than done). Why are we so good at taking care of others but when it comes to ourselves we think we don't deserve to be looked after? We are all worthy human beings and we all deserved to be loved and supported. Take care of yourself xxx

Posted on February 29, 2012 at 6:01 PM

re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Dear Flo- I hope you're mum is doing ok. Reading your post I couldn't help but identify with what you said about doing everything perfect. For so many years I have been a perfectionist However my counsellor helped me see that having that attitude was making me miss out on so many possibilities. So I have tried to adopt a less severe approach now. I try to accept that I may fail at something but at least I've tried. I'll be honest and say it doesn't always work but I have had fun just trying things and trying not to care if I get it wrong and make a fool of myself. For example I suffer with a really bad back and have done for over 20 years. I noticed a pilates class for people with back pain last summer and thought about trying it. I am the most un-coordinated person I know and am very unfit so it was really daunting to try it. But I told myself I was just gonna give it a go and not beat myself up if I couldn't do it. The first lesson I went to I was all over the place and nearly in tears but I persevered. Eight months on I am still going and I love it. I actually look forward to going and am the longest attending pupil there. I just wanted to say it's ok to fail sometimes and you shouldn't beat yourself up if you do. We're all human afterall. Take care xxx

Posted on February 23, 2012 at 5:49 PM

re: re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Dear Crossroads.
I understand your fears all too well. People generally understand when you say you are anorexic or bullimic but binge-eating doesn't really get as much press. I know what you mean when you say you are afraid that people will think you're just greedy. As I've said before though it sometimes has little to do with food and more about how we use food to cope with other issues. You are not greedy or useless you have a real illness and should never feel ashamed. Your GP should take your concerns seriously and it's been my experience that they are usually very understanding. The problem is getting the actual help we need. I had to wait 6 months for an appointment with a counsellor and then she could only offer me a maximum of 6 appointments which wasn't much use to be honest. I did however look online and found a womens drop-in centre . They offer low cost counselling ( can be as little as Â£5 an hour depending on your income) and can offer longer term help then the NHS. There is a 2 month waiting list but they can offer up to 24 sessions once I start which is fantastic compared to what the NHS can do. So maybe it would be worthwhile for you to do a bit of surfing and find out what help there is in your area. You might be pleasantly surprised. I hope your appointment with your GP goes well. Try to stay strong and take care xxx

Posted on February 21, 2012 at 4:22 PM

re: re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Bunnylove- Thanks for your suggestions. My counsellor did recommend a womens drop-in centre near me. They do low cost counselling but there is a 2 month waiting list, so I've put my name down for that. . I have enrolled on an anger management course which I'm hoping will help. I have checked out my local library but there's not much there that I'm interested in. I'd love to go to a self help group for people with EDs but there isn't one near me. I'll keep looking though. Thanks for your kind words and suggestions. Take care xxx

Posted on February 20, 2012 at 5:21 PM

re: re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Dear Tulip. I understand your fears and anxieties about seeing the mental health nurse. It is always nervewracking when you go to someone for help and don't know what to expect. I am sure she/he will do their best to put you at ease, that's certainly been my experience. They're used to dealing with people who find it hard to ask for help. Just try to remember there is no pressure for you to talk about things you're not ready to discuss but you'll probably find it quite cathartic just having someone to talk too. I hope it goes well for you. Take care.

Posted on February 20, 2012 at 5:05 PM

re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Dear findingmyvoice. I'm so glad you found this site and I hope you will get the support you need and deserve. I know how it feels to feel ashamed and unable to talk to anyone. Is there one person in your life you know would support you? Maybe just telling one person would make you feel like a weight had been lifted off your shoulders. Sometimes talking to someone like your GP would help. Talking to a non-family member is easier as they wont have any biases. Sorry if I'm stating the obviuos. Your GP won't judge you or criticise you and should be able to offer you some help. The first and sometimes the most scariest step is acknowledging that you have a problem and asking for help. Trust me though it's worth it. I do hope you find the help you need. Never be ashamed you have a genuine illness and deserve support. Take care xxx

Posted on February 20, 2012 at 4:49 PM

re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Bunnylove- Your words are so kind and encouraging and I thank you for that. I have joined * and am friends with a couple of girls I used to go to school with but I don't talk to them much. The problem I have is that my boyfriend is pretty much the only positive person I have in my life. My relationship with my family is very tense and the cause of most of my problems. My Mum and Nan were the ones I was closest too but they both passed away within the last 18 months. I'm not coping very well with that but have joined a bereavement support group. The only problem is that most of the people in the group are all elderly. No offense to the elderly but I'm only 34 so haven't really made any friends there even though they are all really sweet. I was bullied at school so didn't have many close friends. During the years I was able to work my moods were so erratic it put people off. So making friends has never been easy for me. Sorry if I sound like I'm moaning. I'm trying to make my days have more structure but as you probably know it's easier said than done. I'm trying to make a social group for myself but it's difficult. When people find out I'm not working for health reasons they look at me and can't see a physical problem and it confuses them. My boyfriend and I have been together for 14 years and he is the one constant good thing in my life. Maybe I just need to be kinder to myself. I have made small steps in the right direction it just still feels like it's all too much sometimes. Thank you for your support, it means a lot. Take care xxx

Posted on February 17, 2012 at 8:11 PM

re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Bunnylove- Thank you for your kind words. I have started doing some voluntary work. I do one morning a week at a local charity shop. I am really enjoying it. The problem is I am so exhausted all the time I can't commit to more than one morning a week. I have found a special back care pilates class one morning a week (I've always suffered with back pain) and am really enjoying that too. I'm also starting day hospital but they can only offer me 90 minutes one morning a week. So I have filled 3 mornings a week. The problem is though I am still alone for such long periods. I know that boredom and lonliness are my triggers but I don't seem to be able to do much more than I am already. I've tried all sorts of distractions but nothing seems to work. As I said before I am trying hypnotherapy soon and I hope that this will help. I tried it a few years ago and it didn't work but I was in a very different place back then. I wasn't ready to forgive people or move on from the past. Now things are different. I've grown up and excepted a lot of things that happened and desperately want to move on. I wish people who didn't suffer with the problems we have realised that food is not the main issue. It is what we use to deal with deeper problems. I want to say that food is almost incidental to the problem but I don't want to offend others, I can only say that in my case food is just the instrument I use to cope with the deeper rooted problems I have. I know that I need to face and deal with these issues before I can finally move on from my food issues. It's wonderful to hear from others. Before I came on this website I truly believed that no-one could possibly understand what I've been through and still go through every day. It's such a relief to know that there are others out there who know what it's like. For the first time in my life I feel like I'm not the only one. Thank you.

Posted on February 17, 2012 at 11:18 AM

re: Binge Eating Disorder? I hate it so much.

Hi. I'm brand new to this sort of website but I felt I needed to see that there are other people out there who know what I'm going through. I started suffering with anorexia when I was 12, I left home when I was 18 and it turned to bulimia. Now I'm 34 and for the past five years I've just turned to binge-eating. Food rules my life. I haven't worked for 9 years because of my problems so am alone all day. My biggest problem is boredom and loneliness. I can't help bingeing. I say "That's it tomorrow I'll stop and everything will be ok". But it never is. I've tried every kind of therapy over the years. Whilst they have all helped in a small way nothing has had a life-changing impact. I'm even starting hypnotherapy next week to try and get back into healthy eating. My boyfirend is amazing and so supportive but he can never fully understand what it's like. Having read some of your posts it was like reading about myself and brought tears to my eyes. I never thought anybody else would understand what it's like to be so lost and out of control. Lets hope we all find the support we need xxx

Posted on February 16, 2012 at 12:32 PM

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