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I had about 10 sessions I think, each about an hour or so long. They were very good at putting my anxieties into perspective which I felt helped me realise that they weren't really worth worrying about. My anxieties were more towards social situations mainly, and the anxiety of the possibilities of drawing negative attention towards myself.

I would definitely recommend it! =)

Posted on September 14, 2012 at 11:48 AM

re: I'm 29 and I've Had Selective Eating Disorder All My Life...

My big problem was that I completely over-analysed a problem and started to grow a massive 'what if' scenario tree with an infinite amount of branches.

This wasn't a particular anxiety of mine but it's a simple one I can use as an example. Lets say I had an anxiety of walking down the street. My 'what if' tree would start growing. What if I bumped into someone I didn't like? What if I fell over into the road? What if a car mounted the pavement? What if I bumped into someone? What if I bumped into someone and they started getting aggressive? What if I couldn't handle that? What if people stopped and watched? What if.... what if.... what if!!!

The 'what if' tree needed to be cut down.

Ooooh, metaphor!

I can't remember the exact method details but it was, in a nutshell, looking at these what-if scenarios and seeing just how likely they were to happen, then figure out what I'd do for the most plausible possibility. I quickly realised, when things I got really worked up about were talked about and written down and broken down and analysed, just how petty, small and insignificant they actually were when before I thought they were a big deal.

The big thing I came away with was that if a problem didn't exist then there's no reason to worry about it; especially hypothetical situations that had little or no chance of really happening. What-if problems only existed in my mind, and as soon as I realised that then I found it a lot easier to ignore them. I also realised that a problem nearly always had a solution. Yes, sometimes it might make someone angry or put someone out, but it still had a solution.

That was the technique used on me, anyway. It was pretty effective!

Soon after I finished treatment I was at work and as browsing the online job vacancies. I spotted one that I liked the look of and, on a whim, decided to just apply for it and to hell with the consequences. I got the job! =)

As my therapist said to me - It's only to be a little selfish now and then. =)

Posted on September 13, 2012 at 11:45 AM

re: Has anyone had treatment for Anxiety?

I've been referred for treatment for anxiety and depression. I personally found it very helpful and it helped me to conquer a lot of what I now realise were very pointless fears and 'what if' scenario anxieties. =)

Let me know if you'd like me to go into more detail. =)

Posted on September 10, 2012 at 12:44 PM


Heya =)

Yeah, I was like that. I've never had a school meal - every day it was a packed lunch of the same things. The safe foods of * a * and *. Food with any kind of texture makes me feel very uncomfortable - even the mere sight of it!

I was assessed for Asperger's a couple of years back after every online test kept giving me scores of the mid 40's. Their diagnosis was that I had pretty much every characteristic but, because I could have a conversation with them, she didn't think I had it. Which is pretty unfortunate - I could only hold a conversation with her because I'd spent ages making sure I was able to cover every base symptom wise. If I'd gone in cold I'd have been a very quiet, non eye-contact person!

It's probably because of that which meant I didn't really have any treatment for AS. I was, however, referred to a psychologist for help with anxiety which I did also suffer with. That helped me a lot with that particular aspect but it hasn't solved everything.

There's a factor of AS which is Sensory HyperSensitivity which I feel I have. I wouldn't even know where to begin in getting that officially diagnosed but every quiz, test and checklist I can find online pretty much spell it out for me. One of their big factors is being hypersensitive to texture and taste, which could be a further contributory factor to SED. That's what I initially thought it could be when I first discovered it.

I'm planning on going back to see my GP very soon with the SED information to see what can be done with it. Back before all the information I had about SED and AS I was sent to see someone who dealt with NLP but, because of the misdiagnosis at the time, I don't feel it really addressed what was going on in my brain.

How far have you managed to go with your doctors? Have they referred you to anywhere regarding SED? =)

Posted on September 10, 2012 at 12:27 PM

I'm 29 and I've Had Selective Eating Disorder All My Life...

Hey everyone.

I've always had this disorder ever since I was 18 months old. It's one of those things where I felt it was something only I had but now, after finding out that it does actually have a name and that there are thousands of other people with the same thoughts and feelings towards food, I feel I'm no longer alone with this.

I'm 29, nearly 30, and since I was 18 months old I've had SED. Apparently I started off normally but after I very badly scalded myself I just refused all food completely. It was only after about 6 weeks I finally started to eat * which then steadily grew to * then * and *. I pretty much had this diet for years until I grew older and became a teenager and slowly more things were added like *,*,*... basically anything bland with a very basic texture.

Throughout my time with this I've seen doctors, specialists, hypnotists, dieticians etc but nothing has worked. One doctor said I should be forced to eat, left in front of my plate until everything had gone, one said that I had forgotten how to swallow...

I'm kinda on the autistic spectrum, diagnosed recently with mild Asperger's and Sensory HyperSensitivity - whether or not this is a factor contributing to the SED I'm not sure.

Of course, living on a diet of starch and carbs eaten in large quantities meant that I piled the weight on and, at my biggest, I weighed in at around * when I was 28 years old. A diet shrunk me back down to * in a year (bringing along with it a bad case of gallstones).

So that's pretty much my story. I would love to beat this! I've missed out on so many opportunities in my life because of my fear of part of the plan being a meal out or something. I've never really gone on school holidays or field-trips because of it.

Did anybody here manage to get help with their SED? Are there any specialists in the UK I could try and get an appointment with?

Thanks to anyone who can help, and hey! =)

Posted on September 07, 2012 at 10:43 AM
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